I was engeged to a girl who cheated on me and broke the whole thing off, only to come ask for me back 5 months later. I took her back but it feels like the same old girl is here again. Do you think that once a cheater always a cheater? or do they deserve another chance?
2006-06-27 04:13:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't agree that once a cheater always a cheater, I've cheated once before (not on my current boyfriend) and I regretted it and would never do it again. It depends on the person and the situation. If you feel that things haven't changed, talk to her about it and if things still don't change, kick her to the curb! By showing her you were willing to put up with it and take her back she may think it's okay to do it again.
2006-06-27 04:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think once a cheater always a cheater but that's not always the case. I cheated before only once and i never did it again. But i lived with the fact that at any moment he can do 2 me what i did to him so things weren't the same. If its always gonna be in the back of ur mind that she can possibly do it again than u haven't moved on and moved past it. Maybe u need time to yourself to answer that question. But none of us no this girl and how sincere she is so only u can determine if shes capable of hurting u yet again.
2006-06-27 04:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by ceharris81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, once a cheater always a cheater. even if she has changed, that thought of her cheating on you will always be stuck in your head. it will haunt you for the rest of life being with her. every little thing she does will make you suspect if she is cheating on you with another guy. unless you can trust her completely and believe she will never ever do it again, then try to give her another chance. but i doubt it will be easy. also, relationship is all about trust and love. if you have doubts about her.. that just means you are going to have trouble trusting her. it's going to be difficult to keep this relationship healthy. goodluck with whatever decision you pick.
2006-06-27 04:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Once a cheater always a cheater"? Well not exactly in all cases. Not all cheaters cheat again. But, the big, HUGE, question is: Are you willing to risk going through the heartache again?
2006-06-27 04:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you trust this woman? If you're posting a question here, then my guess is no.
I think you should invest some time and money into professional counciling. We can all give you our unprofessional opinions, but if this is a life decision for you, Yahoo isn't the answer! I know counciling sounds all big and scary, but if the two of you really value your relationship, you need to resolve these trust issues before making a serious commitment. Counciling will help bring out those ugly issues you are hesitant to discuss, and provide mediation to avoid blow-ups.
2006-06-27 04:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by fallenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she'll cheat on you while your engaged, then it will happen again. Being engaged is one of the more romantic and early aspects of your supposed relationship. What happens after routine sets in? She's going to go years and years without cheating on you again? No way. You have a girl, but you should go find a special girl instead.
2006-06-27 04:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Farly the Seer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do deserve a second chance because she might have grown to be a better person but their is a chance that she has not so you stay Strong. And before taking someone back you should be friend and if it goes to the next level so be it. :-)
2006-06-27 04:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance cheated on me once also...so I cheated on him in return. And he never did it again. That man is now my husband, and we have the closest relationship in the world. So, yes, I would say to give her another chance. People make mistakes, and when they realize they were wrong and come back to you...it's the real thing.
2006-06-27 04:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think once a cheater always a cheater. I don't think if they treat you like that, that you should let them in your life. They've already shown that they don't respect you, so why let them in to hurt you again?
2006-06-27 04:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very likely that she'll cheat on you again but i also think she might be back cuz she's realised what she had with you was good and chances are she'll probably do her most to show you she's for real this time. so what i think is, give her a chance and then make ur decision
2006-06-27 04:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Zem1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋