Should you just go to the courthouse?
2006-06-27 03:50:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would state this concern to my husband to be. As Catholics are a "Father, Son, Holy Ghost" religion, your fiance should understand what unconditional love is and how Jesus expressed it daily. If your are being required by your future husband and his family to marry in the Catholic church rather than where you can BOTH agree, then I would say this marriage isn't about a union of two loves and two hearts, but a tug-o-war to see who can make the new family member jump through the hoops in order to be accepted by the family. Where you marry has absolutely no bearing on whether you will have a long and loving marriage or not. I jumped through the "hoops" too...to make his family happy. Ya know what? They had hoops, as did he, for the next 17 years and they never were satisfied with my "jumps". He divorced me while I was still attempting to "perform" according to his expectations.
2006-06-27 04:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Marianne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing in scripture that requires you to be married in a particular type of church. The Catholic requirement that a marriage is only recognized by God if it's done by a priest in a Catholic church is not supported by God's word.
Get married in a surrounding that makes you happy. If it's a courthouse, go for it. If it's your Aunt Millie's garden, be my guest. The important thing is to be sure you're getting married for the right reasons and that you recognize your promises to each other should not be broken.
2006-06-27 11:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't get married.
2) Go to the courthouse and have yourself marrried by a Justice of the Peace
3) Have the wedding somewhere nice, like a park, or a country club, and have a JP officiate.
4) Have the wedding somewhere nice, like a park, or a country club, and have a Minister/Priest officiate (I did this).
There are plenty of options available that don't involve churches. Take a look around and use your imagination. :)
2006-06-27 11:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Spooky - Gender Anarchist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding chapel doesn't ask a whole lot of questions and is nicer than a courthouse. If you could put up with the bull there are a lot of fringe benifits like the parish hall for very little or nothing for the reception. Still have to have caterers though.
2006-06-27 10:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single and celibate. If that is not an option for you, go to the courthouse. Who says they have the right to say you have to jump through so many hoops to get married if that is what you really want?
2006-06-27 10:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to marry in a Catholic church? If you want a church wedding, almost any church is available, usually for a fee. You have to provide your own minister to officiate, or you can go to Vegas, to a wedding chapel. They take care of everything. There are also wedding chapels in other parts of the country, Gatlinburg, TN for instance.
2006-06-27 10:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married at the courthouse, it wasn't bad at all. I'd do it again if i could do it over. a woman judge married us, I'm glad about that cause she was more sensitive than what a male judge would of been. she didn't make it seem formal and she even mentioned god.
2006-06-27 12:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a spiritual marriage then it works better than a church or courthouse and if you a pagan you could go to a U.U. church they are pagan and non christian churchs
2006-06-27 11:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married on the beach and, have a non-denominational wedding, or just go to Vegas
2006-06-27 10:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by what the... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET MARRIED IN A COURTHOUSE, OR JUST GO TO A NONCATHOLIC CHURCH
2006-06-27 10:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋