My baby's daddy needs a divorce?

Question

My baby son will be 5 months old july 3rd and i have been with his dad for 3 years, we live together. He has been seperated for 7 years from a lady in australia, he lived there with her and they did seperate their belonging legally when they went to court on a different charge before he even met me. Do you think the divorce is annulled since it has been so long and if not, how hard is this going to be to get a divorce? IHow much money is it? He does not even know where she is? know she wanted one about 2 years ago, but at that time, he ignored her request. Now i really need him to get that divorce on account of my son and i love him to want to marry him. He got the papers to fill out and file with the court on divorce a year ago, they are still sitting in his car so he does not need to pay for the pappers. he knows, i am dead serious that i will leave him if this is not done soon. I feel like an idiot being with a still married man with a baby

It's driving me so crazy that he is not divorced yet...It seems like he never has enough money over too...but how much could i possibly be? I am not having my dad pay for it, even though he offered. It is my boyfriends responsibilty

I also have an 8 year old daughter that is not his, but i want to set a good example for her and make sure she does not get involved with a seperated man

I don't think he is delaying it anymore as for a crutch not to get married, i think it is all about getting the money to get a divorce.

Answer 1

Most states offer a divorce that is non contested and no fault and dependingon income you can get it for free
Go to your local clerks office at the court house - ask for a divorce packet and tell them you cannot afford to pay for it and ask for a poplars statement(that is the income form to waive the fees) also tell them that the ex is out of state and you are not sure of her whereabouts and ask if you can file through notification - you will be permitted to run the divorce in the lcal newspaper for a week or so - if she doesnt respond the divorce is granted.....not too difficult- if you need more info contact me and we will go into more details

Answer 2

You are still with him after he denied her request for a divorce? You are nicer than I am. Love is a strange, wonderous thing too though. It depends on the laws of Australia, if that is where they got married. If he can not find her then he can file in the courts that she is unable to be located and they can grant the divorce in absentia. The marriage is not considered annulled just because they have been divorced for seven years. If he has the papers take them out of his car, set them down in front of him and then deliver your ultimatum...with an ink pen. If he hesitates then you are better off without him and you will also know the truth. Don't wait...you have a life to lead and a baby to take care of without wondering what your future is going to be like. God Bless!

Answer 3

First off this question is miscategorized, because it is a relationship question - not a question about pregnancy or parenting.

Second you are the one that stayed with this guy this long. You should have put a stop to the relationship BEFORE you got pregnant, if you feel this strongly about the situation.

Third I have read a number of your questions and the common factors seem to be 1) you have pent up resentment toward both your guy and your son 2) you are desperately looking for approval of your bad actions 3) you need someone to talk to.

I really think you are looking for an excuse to dump him and if enough people on here tell you to leave him, you can later throw it in his face that the whole relationship was wrong to begin with. Look you choose the guy, you choose to make a baby with the guy, and you continue to chose to stay with him. YOU are the only one who can change the course of your own life. If you are unhappy with the way things are, then you alone must do something about it.

Answer 4

I hate to say it but if this man really loved and wanted to marry you, he would not have put off his divorce this long. She wanted a divorce two years ago when you were together and he ignored her, he has had the divorce papers in his car for a year? These are all signs this man is not in a hurry to move on with his life and make an honest woman of you. He needs to be the one on here asking the questions you did about the cost of the divorce, finding her, ect. You cannot do this for him or else you will never know if he would have done it himself. Your child deserves to have a father you are married to inspite of your affair. You are only and idiot if you allow this man to drag his feet for another 3 years. An ultimatum is clearly called for.

Answer 5

The marriage will not be anulled. He has to get a divorce. He can file either in the US or in Australia and she doesn't have to be present. He can obtain a default judgement if she can't be found. If he files in the US, the American lawyer will send the relevant documents to Australia. It will be a bit pricy and time consuming, but I can't understand why he hasn't filled out the papers... in the car for a year.. geez.. he could be done by now.

Answer 6

Ok Linda! PLEASE READ HERE!!

I CAN help you with this one. Firstly I live in Australia and secondly I have been through all that myself with my ex and with my current husband who got a divorce from his ex as well.

The marriage although they have been separated for 7 years is not annulled. He will need to get a divorce. The divorce papers do not cost a cent!! (the filing fee/court fee does when lodging the papers)

The divorce kit he has is old. They are updated every 6-12 months and if lodged will not be accepted as they are out of date. He will need to ring and get new ones sent...ok?

He will have to contact the Family Law Court of Australia for the papers. Once filling in the papers he will need to make 2 copies. (one for his ex, the original for the courts and one copy for himself) He needs to send in the original and both copies of the divorce kit and send a filing fee with it to lodge it. (Depending on his income, if he is an Australia citizen and had a concession card it would be free, if he is working it can be up to $400)

He will receive two copies of the paperwork back, one for him and one for the ex with the court hearing date and time listed on them.

The papers he will have to have served on his ex by a baliff. (this too will cost a fee, somewhere around $50 usually) He will need to do some investigating first like speaking with her family or friends to find out her whereabouts exactly. He then gives her whereabouts to the baliff who will serve the papers on her personally.

He can tick a box on the divorce kit which means there is no need for either of them to attend the divorce hearing, as long as both parties agree to the divorce it should take all of 2 minutes to be granted and the paperwork stamped.

It then takes 1 month and 1 day from the date of the court hearing before the divorce is final. They then send the decree of nisi certificate (which is your certificate of divorce) to you within 7-14 working days in Australia. (probably a couple of days longer considering yous are in the US)

If you need any further information like Family Law Court addresses/phone numbers etc email me on [e-mail] ok.

Hope this helps you. Best Wishes

Lady

Answer 7

go to the court house and get a copy of a divorce that is similar to yours (they are for the public to view). take it home and type your up using the other one as an example. you can file it yourself at the court house. here it only costs $150 for the filing fee. they will ask you if you want the ex to be summoned with a copy. then they will announce it in the newspaper. if she doesn't contest in 16 days, your divorce will be approved by the judge. this is how i got my divorce. need more info just email me. i will be glad to help anyway i can.

Answer 8

ok the math is not adding up......if YOU have been with him for 3 years and 2 years ago HIS WIFE wanted a divorce but he DENIED her request.....werent you already with him when he DENIED her request..you need to ask yourself why would your boyfriend deny such a request when he is with you?...doesnt sound right to me......i think he is trying to have his cake and eat it too.........my mother is not rich either but she still got a divorce within a year.......if he was really serious about it then he would have divorced way sooner than this. I think he is playing you.....he just does not want to go through that whole process of divorce...who knows he may have some inheritance that he knows he will have to give up to his wife if he gets a divorce......

it might seem far fetched ...but SOMETHING is fishy about this whole situation....

Answer 9

a million. Take your daughter to a psych that is going to help her. 2. decrease ties with actual everyone from ex's kinfolk. 3. tell ex's kinfolk in the event that they want to deliver some thing for one baby than the different one gets precisely equivalent. in the event that they do in comparison to that answer too undesirable do no longer deliver something. 4. stay your life with your quickly to be husband and 3 infants.

Answer 10

well i was in a relationship like that. it was kindof hard talking to someone about that. i will tell you what i learned, different states have diferent laws, and sometime it matters what state they got married at. and it matters sometimes who files first. each twon has a chamber of commerce you need to call them and they can refer you who to call.and alot of times it is really simple and it just takes some time. but it also sounds like you are doing all the work. you and your boyfriend mite need to have along talk. you dont think it is a crutch for your boyfriend so yall want have to get married...? just wondering. dont know all the facts except for what you wrote. good luck.