My older brother and sister have never got on with my dad but me and my younger sister have always had a good relationship with him. He has revealed that he has left them out of his will and now my older brother and sister hate me and haven't spoken to me for 2 years. He has given us our inheritance early but was I wrong to accept it as his wish? I always got on with my siblings before and I'm devastated now because they blame me for everything and never want to see me again.
2006-06-27 03:33:02 · 64 answers · asked by Hotpink555 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is your fathers fault, and they should talk with him. As a sister you should give them something as well, and not keep everything for yourself.
2006-06-27 03:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing happens all the time. I am a parent and have excluded 2 of my children from my will and trust provisions. It's not that I don't love these 2 children but excluding them from the will was a hard long thought out personal decision.
Your father has made that same decision where you and your siblings are concerned.
If something happens to y our father and he deceases make some kind of provision for your siblings yourself. Let them have things from your father's estate. Example: a family photo, a ring, a precious memory ...even a family photo album.
This is something you and your sister could do to make peace with your brother and sister that have been left out.
You and your younger sister need to make the effort to talk to your siblings. Don't wait until a death happens to communicate. You'll be sorry in the long run if you do!
2006-07-10 23:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not in the wrong at all. It is an issue that your siblings obviously need to get over, on their own! It is not something you have asked for, neither is their poor treatment towards you deserved. It makes me sad that family can treat each other like that. I am sorry that they do not treat you as you should be treated. They will in time, get over it. If they don't, then they are missing out on your love and friendship. Focus on your younger sister for now, and give the other two some time to grow up a little more!
2006-06-27 03:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by troublewithacapitaltee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see both points of view. It must me a major slap in the face to be left out of your Dad's will but by the same token it isn't your fault that you haven't been. It is your Dad's perogative what he does with his money. Perhaps your siblings should have made more of a effort with him, they can hardly expect too much if they haven't been near or by. Why did your Dad decide to, not only leave them out, but give you your inheritance early? There must be more to this story than meets the eye. Perhaps you don't know all of it? Difficult situation though. What does your Dad make of it, and does he know how upset you have been by it, and what an awkward situation it has put you in? Communication is the key word I think. Best of luck.Xx
2006-06-27 03:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my folks would never do that, to cut your siblings out of the will was wrong regardless of whether your father got on with them or not but that's not the issue.
When I read your question, I thought to myself: 'what would I do in this situation'? Answer? I'd share it with my siblings, even if it wasn't my father's wish.
Your father has to promote the special relationships between siblings, you will all be around after he has gone and what will you be left with? A tattered relationship due to your father's rather, if don't mind me saying it, petty behaviour.
Your brother and sister probably feel a little gutted because there's no greater way for a parent to show how little they care for a child than to cut them out of the will.
Please don't take the petty comment regarding your father the wrong way, I'm not disrespecting him, but to cut them out entirely on the basis he doesn't get on with them is a tad harsh, don't you think?
Good luck though.
2006-06-27 03:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by LONDONER © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really wrong and unGodly. Put yourself in their shoes? Perhaps you have the ability to review things better now that your dad is late.
Intelligence is a rare gift. And it is given to use for the benefit of mankind and progress of society. So many times to achieve what is right we have to go steady and this oftentimes involves giving up what we really love.
It may not cost you anything to re share the property, but the buttomline is , is it right and fair? If you answer yes, and you'd not mind standing before God to re answer the yes, then no problem.
You could have saved us some trouble by explaining a little bit on some of the why, your dad took that step.
Perhaps i am giving this advice in the light of Islam. and on my knowledge as a muslim
2006-07-09 23:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was your Father's wish for you to have the inheritance, then you should take it with the intended love that it was. It is not a born right to receive something in anybody's will. Both my parents died without making a will and I got nothing. I have my memories of them and that is enough for me. I think that your brother and sister should respect your Father's wishes and get on with it.
2006-07-10 14:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your dad would want to create this kind of atmosphere between his kids. But, obviously there is more to this story, i'm pretty sure. It's not your fault that your dad has you in his will, and has distributed his wealth to you and your sister; though i wouldn't call that an inheritance by definition. Your dad has created an atmosphere of resentment between you and your siblings, why, I don't know. On the other i don't understand why your siblings would blame you for "everthing". it would be interesting to know the whole story.
2006-06-27 03:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Alejandro S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do I smell BETRAYAL? I don't see you offering to share it with them, so how devastated can you be? I'm guessing you probably manipulatde your dad into doing this by telling him your brother's and sister's deepest secrets and perhaps a few lies. Maybe you also told him some lies about them. Even if it's not true, surely that's what they are thinking. You should come clean with them and make reparations if you are guilty. Or if you are telling us the truth and are not guilty, then hold your head high and don't give them another thought. you can't have it both ways. Sorry.
2006-06-27 03:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad it is when money tears families apart. If your siblings don't want to speak to you, let them get on with it. It sounds like they care more about the money than about you and your dad. Did your dad put the money in a special fund for you? If your dad wanted you to have the money now, I imagine you felt you should take it. Let's hope your dad's around long enough to patch things up with your brother and sister
2006-06-27 03:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Emma H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother and sister are jealous. But what do they expect. If they haven't got on with your dad then how do they expect to get anything from him. It's his choice. Accept the money because he gave it to you and your sister with love.
It's hard but ignore your older siblings. DON'T give them any money. It would be going against your dad's wishes.
2006-06-27 03:38:20 · answer #11 · answered by Iluv24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋