I'm 30 I've been going out with 26 year old for 6 months. I don't really understand why such a young guy would want to be with an older woman like me when there are so many beautiful young women out there.
We have great sex and loads in common... he says he cares for me a lot, but I am sure he should be with someone younger and prettier. Does this kind of relationship have a future?
2006-06-27 03:29:13 · 35 answers · asked by SmartBlonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just because you are 30 does not make you unattractive this person has seen something special in you that he loves enjoy the relationship and i hope all works out fine for you and 26 isnt really that much younger you sound a little insecure this might push someone away enjoy what you have and take care.
2006-06-27 04:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by isthisnamefree 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Oh come on now. A 4 year difference in age is very common place. He is not "such a young guy" as you put it when you are only 4 years older. My sis is 5 years older than her husband and they love one another deeply and have been married for over 16 years. How about that? If there were a 20 year spread in age then I would have a different answer. But you have nothing to worry about. Embrace his love he has for you because I do believe its real. (smile)
2006-06-27 03:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all grl have a little more self-esteem. u seem to ask urself too much y he's with u as if u dont think ur good enough for him. i guess u dont think ur "beautiful" nor "young" enough for him but that should never be a problem, first of all, the best beauty is the one inside. u say u have lots in common that's great u c? u should be a little more positive :) 30 yrs old is not that old and he is only 4 yrs younger which is not a big difference. besides, u've been together 6 months, he obviously does want to stay with u. i think this relationship definately has a future, just smile, relax and enjoy it
2006-06-28 16:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweetness_n_passion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, there can be a future, just chill out relax and enjoy it. You are way too hard on yourself. I'm 34, 35 next week and my husband of 4 years is only 26. We have a wonderful relationship. You must be beautiful to him or he have not been involved with you this long. Sounds like to me you need a good boost of self esteem. You better hang on to him. A good man is hard to find. Age shouldn't matter anyway, it would be different if he was 17 or18 and you were 30. but, it's only 4 years. Just relax and enjoy this girl it's a good thing.
2006-06-27 03:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with somebody else who responded in that you are making yourself out to be this old lady. First of all, women are like a fine wine, they only get better with age. Second of all, you're only 30, you're still young and as a matter of fact, my wife is 30 and I'm 26. If he is totally immature and wants to act like he's a freshman in college, then ok, I can see why you are concerned, but it seems like he digs you and I think you should just enjoy the ride and see where it takes you.
2006-06-27 03:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by USC Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what the big deal is. It's only a 4 year difference, and its a common thing. Now if he was 21 and you were 30, then ya I could see your point. It sounds like he is really into you, so I would do yourself a favor....accept it, because if you keep thinking these negative thoughts you just might loose him, and he might be the perfect one for you, and if that happens.....you will regret it! forever.
2006-06-27 03:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by alilfishy06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, my gf is 5 yrs older than I am and yes we have great sex and we also have loads in common and she has the same problem with me. If he says he doesnt care about the age thing, he doesnt care. Leave it at that, you have something he wants, a relationship, otherwise you would know.
2006-06-27 03:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Abe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a future if he wants the same as you. I am 27 dating a 23 year old and he doesn't want the same things as me. I want a spouse, a marriage and a family and he isn't ready yet, but I respect that.
If he is mature and wants the same as you it can definitely work.
Sounds to me he is with the older woman for the sex. You know you are at your peak right now.
2006-06-27 03:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it has a future- some people are very attracted to older women and it's perfectly natural- this guy probably truly fancies you- and if you fancy him too, then all the better. Go for it and enjoy the situation. Good luck!
2006-06-27 03:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sitting Still 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, you keep this attitude going and you won't have a 26 year old to be paranoid about. Have you ever heard" don't look a gift horse in the mouth". Of course you have a future,My Dear, these are normal thoughts you're having probably because you've reached the big 30........DON'T YELL FIRE UNTIL YOU SEE SMOKE.............ENJOY YOURSELF!!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 03:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by veteranpainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋