my parents are getting a divorce,they are making me choose between them, i dont want to live with either?

Answer 1

You should probably have a law guardian during this process. This is a lawyer, just for you, that looks out after your interests while your parents divorce and beef about custody. I don't know where you live so I can't tell you what to do. If you have a law guardian, you tell him/her that you don't want to be with either parent, and if you don't, you need to talk to somebody you trust, to run interference with you and your parents.

Answer 2

If you have close relatives it is possible in most countries to be arranged that you live there.

Most people these days realise that living with a divorced or single parent is not the best for a child. Also the time during the divorce and after is a bad time for both parents.

They need time to devote to themselves and the divorce. Usually there is a lot of aggression towards either parent and children should not be exposed to that.

If you have a relative that could take you in - this would be a good solution. Depending on your age it could be nessesary to make arrangements to make them your legal custodian or not.

This can be settled outside court completely if your parents agree to this.

I would say - first try to find a couple that would be a better option for you.

Answer 3

I hate to say it but thats the least of your worries too come. My parents got divorced around 20 years ago - I'm 29 currently! I remeber that faithful day we moved out of my Dad's house like it was yesterday - Like everything in life, it is what you make of it, and with changing circumstances there's a lot of good and bad that you're gonna have to deal with - Unfortuneatly making you choose may put you in the middle of something that you were just born into and that they created - Good luck with the next few years - Remember that a divorce is the reciprocal to a marriage, as you had very little to do with the decision your parents made to get married, you have even less say in their divorce, be supportive of them both, they are human after all....

Answer 4

sure, you're nevertheless a minor at regulation until eventually you've been emancipated. which skill you're nevertheless below your moms and dads responsibilty legally. And that is a criminal offense for a 26 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old guy to be intimate with a woman below the age of 18. He might want to comprehend extra efficient. 17 wil get him twenty. (years in reformatory) Do you already comprehend what being a minor at regulation is about? It has no longer something to do with what you imagine or experience your rights are. that is a criminal definition that asserts you're below your moms and dads care until eventually you're 18 and they have the right and criminal responsibility ot look after you from situations you may come to damage in. you're fortunate your moms and dads have not had you declared incorrible. in case you could grant your own income, pay lease, nutrition and vehicle funds, pay all of your own expenditures. you could pass to courtroom (prices money) and get your self declared an emancipated minor.

Answer 5

Divorce is tough to deal with - it is even harder when the parents use the kids to get at each other. I am sorry you have to go through that. Talk to your parents separately and express that you are feeling that way, express how it is frustrating you. If you are under 18, you have to live with one of them, unless they were to let you live with a relative and make them your guardian. I suggest you talk to them honestly and openly. And if you need to talk to someone about your feelings, speak with a school counselor or teacher for more advice. Good luck.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear about what you are going thru. maybe this will help.

you can call one of those family law lawyers who advertise in the phone book saying "free initial consultation" ask them how to find a child advocate in a divorce situtuation. talk to one of those and see if you can get help thru them.

let both of your parents know that you realize that they no longer want to live together, but that they are not allowed to take this out on you, or make you choose sides, as being the child gives you the right to love both of your parents unconditionally, and to make you choose one over the other, violates your rights.

I hope this helps

Answer 7

if you don't want to live with either one of them you can live with your grandparents or an aunt or uncle...if you are 18 then you can live on your own...also you ca be emanciapted...to be emancipated you have to be 15 or up..there are cases where you can get emancipated before that age but it is highly unlikly...you will have to prove that you can take care of yourself..an you wil know what to do in certain situations..if you do this an the judge approves it then for the first couple of months a case worker will be there a few days out of the week to make sure your doin fine an everythings ok... but in order to do this you have to be prepared to grow up really fast an be an adult

Answer 8

snapzen is right, I did the same thing at 9 years old I went an lived with a uncle and aunt that were always kind to me and they raised me as their own......... I hope you have some one in your life like that. Always remember, that what your parents do is not your fault, they are adults and should know better than to put that kind of pressure on you. I hope all turns out well for you, remember you are not alone, this has happened to many of us and we turned out just fine! well OK anyway!! Try to talk with someone you trust in family or friends it will help you feel better.

Answer 9

Do u have a favorite aunt or uncle that will receive u? If u do, talk it out with Ur parents and tell them how u feel, that way they will accept Ur feelings and try to put their differences as side for a while. Give it a shot, it just might work! Good luck and I hope everything works out!

Answer 10

choose the parent who you can tolerate more, or the one who will live somewhere close to where you already live, if not gets the house so that you can continue going to the same schools and have the same friends that you already have to offer support, and so you don't have to go through any more drastic changes in your life. also, if you're a girl, i recomend choosing your mother, unless you already know how to take care of yourself... same goes for boys and choosing dad