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Question

a difficult life...cud u share ur exprience if you have been hurt badly or if you have been thru a very rough phase in your life..how did you get thru??? or how are you tryin??? actually im goin thru one so was wonderin if you guys have been to the same.

Answer 1

Well I can sum it up but to tell you the entire story would fill a novel. Married very young at 19 thought I knew everything. I worked hard and honestly tried hard and yeah I stuck to it. Loved my wife other women seem to have disappeared and did great. Sure we had our problems like everyone but none that couldn't be talked calmly about and worked out before bedtime. I thought we had the perfect marriage no disrespect in maintaining our love for one another. Never raised my voice in hate nor did she, never raised my hand to her in anger nor did she. Never even thought about cheating.
Lasted 25 years when she decided she needed a change starting with me. To this day I won't say a bad thing about her and in my eyes she could do not wrong. I was hurt, I was crushed. But I was brought up to be understanding and caring. That day I could see the love was no longer in her eyes and I knew no matter what was said it was not going to change the fact that it was over. To my heart and soul it was over as was her's.
2 years now since that day and I have not seen her or talked to her in person. Am I hanging on to the past? No I know that indeed that which was has ended. Do I remember yes I remember the laughs the fun times even silly little fights that ended as quickly as they came. And I remember the heart-crashing end.
I work, I learn, I listen and I live one precious moment at a time. Maybe one day I will find someone who can love me, accept me, and understand me and allow me to enter their life. So yeah lonesome is my companion, but knowing I have no regrets is what comforts me.

Answer 2

I was about 5 or 6 years (and yes I still remember) when I lost my entire family in war. I still remember seeing some people being gunned down. Until today I don't know whether there are some that are alive or are they all dead. Nevertheless a family took me in and my adoptive mother has taken me in as her own. Loved me like she loves her own child and so forth. Through out life I've gone through heart breaks caused by guys and everytime I wept myself to sleep I tend to remember every bad thing that has happened in my life.
During the moaning stage for me I feel mostly unloved both by God (even though He has nothing to do with the pain), the world and even myself. I always questioned as to why every bad thing has to happen to me.

During my dark hours since I'm a Christian I ask God to comfort me and just hug me and while praying to Him He does so, He's a faithful God and I know He never lets me down. Maybe it will work differently for you as to how you go through your difficult moments but let me tell you one thing that you are not alone. You may feel worthless or useless but all that is either to make you stronger, to be a better person in life and maybe to learn a lesson so you don't repeat the same mistake. I hope things work out for you and your dark hour doesn't last long.

Answer 3

1. I just lost my brother, 21 years old.
Take it one day at a time.
2. I'm going through a separation with my wife.
Bury myself in work
3. My dog has cancer.
Spend as much time as I can with her and let her know she's not dying alone and unloved.
4. Friends of mine that are still in deployments are dying.
Don't read the news.

Answer 4

happiness follows after sorrows....
thats the golden rule.
No i personally didnt look for anybody's shoulder to weep on...
take life's hard knocks just by remembering to love urself ur God and ur Parents.
my philosophy - THIS TOO SHALL PASS........
hope that helps ya...tc.