My cousin is 15, and dating someone who is 19. the whole family is upset that he is going to hurt her. That was 10 months ago. Hoe can I convince my family that he has changed? (He went from being a man*****, to a one woman man)
2006-06-27 02:43:54 · 26 answers · asked by oochagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't try to convince anyone of anything for someone else. The proof should be left to him to make people believe he has changed & if it's meant to be it will be!
2006-06-27 02:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not even a matter of him changing as much as the real problem being that a 19 year old man has no business dating a 15 year old girl. By the time she is 18 and he is 22, he will have found another woman his age, thus crushing the heart of a girl who has known nothing else about love except for this guy who probably could care less about her.
2006-06-27 02:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand the whole situation, but I can tell you that the only thing that convinces people someone has changed is time and experience. Also, even though you love your cousin and it is certainly right for you to support her and to be on her side, there's really little else you can do in this situation. Taking sides divides families. Just love and support your cuz, believe in her new guy, and stay out of the family squabbles. Also, consider that his behavior now may not be what is real, and your family may have legitimate cause for concern. In my experience, people do change --- but not much.
Best wishes to you and your cousin. You will be in our thoughts and prayers,
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2006-06-27 02:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince your parents by telling them that the guy changed, they will never trust any guys. What you can do is to convince them that you are a responsible daughter, that you will meet every single demands they have, like coming home on time from a date and will not go beyond the boundary(no sex), you will not slack off at school. If you tell them these, they might allow you to see this guy and have a relationship. :)
2006-06-27 02:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Microbes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately too many people are set in their ways. and try as you may they may never see the light. Love has no age barriers. They also may be thinking they know whats best and their way of thinking is right. If you believe its the right thing, just show support. Don't go nuts trying to convince others. They will either come around or not. that's just life.
2006-06-27 02:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly they are just going to have to see for themselves. You can't just convince someone something. People change all the time but they do also change back. Your family is just trying to look out for her. that is all. But if he wants her family's approval he needs to be the one that is trying to convince someone. It is his problem anyways.
2006-06-27 02:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem, there is nothing wrong with someone know dating their same age unless it was a big age difference like 7/10 year difference. What do you mean he is going to hurt her????
2006-06-27 03:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by JuJu23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant convince them, don't even try. She is 15! This is not going to be the man she marries so don't waste you time and effort.
2006-06-27 02:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by ZoSo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it ride out, if it was meant to be then things will fall in to place. It's your body your mind and your life, just see what happens. But don't defy your family when it comes to certain aspects of the relationship. Be safe and just see what happens. Good luck.
2006-06-27 02:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince them....this something they will have to find out for themselves. The fact that's he's 19 has them mad, so I don't think there minds will ever change.
2006-06-27 02:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Shay~Shay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋