how do u know if u really love someone or if its just lust or infatuation?

Answer 1

Infatuation is something that fades very easily. Its there one minute and gone the next. That person does something that irritates you and the connection is gone. That's infatuation.

Love on the other hand is something deeper. You have to really know a person to love them. You need to be able deal with all the things that you don't like about them and still want to spend every waking moment with them. You are sad when they are sad and happy when they are happy. You have connection on many levels. Sexually, intellectually, socially, and more.

You might say what about love at first sight. Well sure there is love at first sight. You think when you meet someone that omg i want to spend the rest of my life with that person. The lucky chance is that you do have all these things in common and you do have the connections. What was infatuation turns into love and you never realize the transition and guess what that was love at first sight... doesn't happen much but its wonderful when it does.

hope this helps

Answer 2

Love is an amazing thing, you'll know it when you feel it. It's far more powerful than lust however lust does play a part in it as there should be a decent amount of physical chemistry between two people who are in love.

It's love when you're willing to do anything for their happiness even if you don't like it or it means making some sort of sacrifice; within reason of course - i.e. you should NOT have to do drugs or anything harmful or extremely uncomfortable for them. When you're in love, all you can think about is them both emotionally and sexually. Not talking to or seeing the object of your affection for even an hour will feel like an eternity. You'll love them for who the person is and not the size of their bank account, if they have a car or are able to drive, whether they still live with their parents or are unemployed at the moment - all things involving money and material possession should be completely and totally irrelevant if you truly love somehow beyond mere lust.

My girlfriend and I are both poor, she's still in school and I have a low income job with decent benefits but we love each other unconditionally. We'd be perfectly content even if we were both homeless as so long as we had each other to hold, nurture and comfort. We do anything and everything in our power to make each other feel happy and loved. We make sure we give each other all the affection, attention, trust and reassurance we need. Being understanding is also a big part of love, sometimes even the best people make big mistakes in a relationship - as long as they learned from their mistake and vow to improve (and make good on that vow) then understanding and forgiving them for their error or lack of sensitively to an issue you found important that they overlooked at the moment, is key.

If you love each other, you'll have a decent amount of things in common other than just physical attraction and when you two talk you should both have a deep interest in what each other has to say about random interests, how their day went and any emotions they're experiencing about something. The conversation should be able to go for long time and when you two run out of things to say, occassional sighs, kisses, "I love you"'s and other romantic mushiness should fill the air until another topic arises.

On the other hand, if your conversations majorly consist of just "I'm horny" or "I want you" or anything sexually suggestive way too often to the point that sex is the emphasis of the relationship, then its just lust and you should move on.

In the case of infatuation, it, like love, feels like a mix of love and lust from my own personal experience. However, should these combined feelings remain and materialize into something like what I described as love, then it becomes love. While infatuated, you should do your best to learn as much as about your love interest as possible and also try and share as much information with him about you as you feel comfortable divulging. If what you both learn, you both find to be compatible and causes you to fall for each other then good. If not, then you should move on.

I hope that helps you a lot. Good luck. :-)

Answer 3

Love takes time while lust and infatuation is immediate. You will know you are in love when you will do things for that person that you wouldn't normally do. I can't explain it, but you will KNOW when you are in love, as for that person will be the person that you set out most to please, and to see that you are everything you can be to them.

Lust is temporary while love is forever.

Answer 4

When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!

Answer 5

That's really hard for anyone else to answer. Because love means something different to everyone. For me, love is like on a rainy day seeing that special someone and instantly it seems like the sun is shining. It's almost like your heart is smiling. Another thing is if you are with the person you think you are in love with and they do something embarrassing or stupid and it doesn't bother you. When it's love, you just know.

Answer 6

Lust is any intense desire or craving, usually sexual, although it is also common to speak of a "lust for life" or a "lust for power" or other goals.

As a sexual term, lust implies a sexual desire in and of itself, an erotic arousal and wish, or intense physical or sexual attraction or craving

Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.

Answer 7

if u really love a person,you would trust them, think about them alot and not get jeolous when you see them with some next girls. Wanting them at all the time..thats infatuation..

Answer 8

infatuation is always a frontliner..if you like somebody and your heart really beats for her then that is still an infatuation ....love always take time....after several days,weeks,years,or decades has already past and your heart still says that he is the right person for you and the feelings even getting deeper then that must be love

Answer 9

Here is a quote I found that I love. I just started dating my boyfriend two months ago and I know I am in love with him, but I questioned it at first too. Here is the quote:

When you love someone, you are totally yourself with them. Nothing can drive a wedge between you. Whatever life throws at you, you deal with together.

Answer 10

Love is wanting the best for that person, even if that means you can't be with them. Love is when you want that person to be happy, even if they aren't with you. Lust is all physical, where you just want to gushmoigity their giggookus. Giggity Giggity.