my boyfriend has been gone for three weeks now.. he calls me we talk and he insures me that everythinsg fine.. thathe needed a break from the city not me.. that he loves me and everything will be fine that hell make this up to me..
i know hes not cheating.. because his friends our my friends.. and theyve told me that there 100% sure that hes not..
he has an anxiety disorder.. so i thought maybe the idea of being with me for a year.. made him anxious and now hes just haven an apasode.. because when his anxiety is up his amune system is down.. and his mom told me that hes really sick right now and he had to go to ER the oher day.. so i dunno what to think
should i wait it out...or yeah.. what should i do?
2006-06-27 02:21:44 · 8 answers · asked by Kelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should wait it out. If he is sick then he probably wants to get better and then he will be back, he stays in contact with you and that is a good sign and if his friends say he is not cheating and you know them well and know they don't lie then he probably is being honest and will be back soon. When you talk to him wish him well and tell him to get better and welcome him with open arms when he gets back. There is alot of celebrating to do. Don't worry, Be happy and you know what they say, " Absent makes the heart grow fonder."
2006-06-27 02:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is more to that than anxiety. It sounds like manic depression or bi-polar. If you want to stay with him and you truly do love him and believe that he loves you, then give him time. Don't be pushy and try to get him back. If there is a mental issue, that could make the situation worse and you might lose him forever. Is he calling you? Or can you get a hold of him? I wonder if he might not be in a mental facility as an inpatient or on an outpatient program. They are very strict on visitations for the reason of healing, they sometimes don't want them seeing people until some of the healing has begun. I would check that out and see if that can't be what is happening.
2006-06-27 09:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r talking about an episode created by PTSD....then it's a serious condition and it can drain you as well. I was with a war veteran for 3 years who came home with the anxiety disorder (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and if you don't know how to deal with it....it can cause you to be stressed and depressed. I thought I can help him, but I couldn't b/c I never heard of it b/4. Get educated about what's going on and why he has anxiety, even if it isnt PTSD. Knowledge is Power!
2006-06-27 09:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Krazy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop...take a deep breath and calm down...he needs you to be supportive right now, not a freaking out mess. Just gave him time and space. If he is still talking to you and he says he loves you then, everything sounds like it's okay. Just stay calm.
2006-06-27 09:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by jac_jms2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out. He has documented and proven reasons for needing to leave. You just need to be patient and wait for him.
2006-06-27 09:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know anything about that but i would try to find out what happend,like talk to his mom and ask here where you can find him, well thats what i would do...yup
2006-06-27 09:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by xdirtyxlifex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okm if he loves u and ur positive he does and ur willing to wait than wait if ur not and ur not sure he loves u than give it a rest
2006-06-27 09:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by mc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
if you think you are leading him to anxiety leave him alone until he comes back to you
2006-06-27 09:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋