2006-06-27 01:58:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
23 years old
2006-06-27 02:00:16 · update #1
that just takes time and the ability to let go
2006-06-27 02:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by jdhoggiebuns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn from your mistakes. When people use you or mistreat you there are always signs that something is going on. If someone only wants to be around you so they can get something from you and then they are gone until they want something again. Or if they mooch off of you and won't do anything productive for themselves, this usually means they are using you. It is OK to have other relationships and to let your guard down to a point, but you have to always be watching for signs that something is going on. Not in a neurotic way, just be aware of whats happening. As soon as you feel like someone is taking advantage of you say something. Don't let it go on, because the longer you let it happen the more it's going to hurt you. My dad use to tell me that you always have to look out for number one, forget everyone else--If your not happy no one around you will be happy. I am not saying you should just forget it happened and go out and start trusting everyone. Go out and meet people and have friends and have fun, just be aware of how people act, so if it's going to happen again you know what to watch for.
2006-06-27 02:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healing from a broken heart is a process and takes time. But if you put in the work, you will be stronger, wiser, and more loving than ever before. To heal, you simply accept what happened and allow yourself to feel all the emotions--sadness, anger, fear, and regret. You fogive the other person, and in time, you are ready to love again. You can also stop the pain by numbing, but I do not recommend that route! Best wishes and courage!
2006-06-27 02:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by marsvenusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really good question. Coming from experience, It's REALLY hard. I would say it's a matter of time. I still have issues with trusting people but you have to convince yourself that all people aren't bad. If you don't put yourself out there you'll never have relationships. I have an excellent relationship now even though I sometimes think too much about things or get suspicious. I just have to tell myself that I'm overreacting and really think about what I'm getting upset about. It comes with time and it's not an easy thing but you'll get there.
2006-06-27 02:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by irish.beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with an older man for over a year, and although I broke things off with him after finding out he was a fraud, I'm still unable to have complete closure. He owes me money, and that is just something I can't get out of my head.
I will say this, the healing, it's needed. I long for the day when I can totally trust a man again.
I'm in a new relationship, and although I'm cautious, I'm in love, and with love there is trust. It took me time, time to actually meet someone new to get over "him".
"You can use me once, shame on you, if you use me twice, shame on me!!"
Good Luck!
2006-06-27 02:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dwell that much on it... it'll take you a long time.. maybe a couple of years... don't think you're unusual or alone.. many people in the same boat as you! you just need to try and focus on other things... gradually, the sky will clear and life will begin to seem normal again.
but make sure you're not looking to fix your feelings for the moment...... don't make that your priority... just relax... and do things you've never done before but always wanted to!
2006-06-27 02:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By feeling free to get on with your life. Then without you knowing it that kind gentle man you have always wanted will be round the corner.
2006-06-27 02:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.....its just matter of hard luck i guess..and u can handle this situation by having faith in GOD and believing in yourself as trust and love comes only to those who believe...and who have the courage to love again..no matter what the circumstances were the first time...and then say,GOD I LOVE U,IWANT U AND I NEED YOUR HELP surely u can handle it then...good luck:)
2006-06-27 02:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by maryam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time, but also remember, fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me! Learn from all things you do, and try not to fall into your old habits.
2006-06-27 02:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by whiteknight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me ull never get over it...u may forgive but there will always be a thought in ur head that he/she is still using u....acceptance is the 1st thng...just get over it...always b careful...and try to be happy...
2006-06-27 02:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by maldita_sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take time and you need to take your time. get to know the person you are trusting and make sure they can handle what you are trusting them with...
2006-06-27 02:01:57 · answer #11 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋