He seems to want a jaunt with his 'mates' to Thailand and I've found Pattaya is on his itinerary. I have heard from my girlfriends that this is the 'sex capital' of Thailand and South East Asia. Is this true?
We have a stable relationship but I was a little concerned a few months ago when he seemed to have eyes for a Cambodian diplomat lady - he has assurred since there was nothing in it
I've done a litle research on Google and it seems to be a real seedy place to go. Am I over-reacting ?
2006-06-27 01:53:47 · 37 answers · asked by Angela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The seedy parts of Thailand are oriented to tourists who want to have cheap meaningless sex. It's a sad thing to witness, but an essential part of the human condition. It's rarely love that people find in those places, though the Thais are predominately Buddhist and often very generous in spirit and for people who are missing love in their lives it can be very attractive. If he's a decent guy and relatively evolved he should be pretty immune to the scene. It's really gross to see the kind of people who go there.
As far as trusting your boyfriend, focus on your own relationships, with yourself and him.
Trust and honesty are essential in a relationship. When you let go freely you'll be surprised at what comes back. You know, the "love is a rose, but you better not pick it" sort of thing. Tell him to have a great time, your confidence, affection and trust are what he'll look forward to returning home to. The older you get the more you realize how great it is to really love and trust another being who you are sharing your life with. What more precious thing do we have then our own lives?
One thing he shouldn't miss is true Thai massage, it's non-sexual and incredibly invigorating to the body and soul. Like doing 3 years of yoga in the span of one hour. It would be a way to experience the sensual pleasures of Thai spirit without being a creepy guy!
2006-06-27 02:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by emopaul 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right, here's the deal. I'm Thai and I'm not going to lie to you that it's not a sex capital simply to protect the reputation of my country. Although I think the term you use is a bit over-rated but it's your judgement and I respect that.
I have been to Pattaya. Many of my friends who are having a stable relationship also have been there. None of the trips to Pattaya of the those people's, including mine, have seemed to have involved indecent sex in any way whatsoever.
Your careful choice of the word "stable" in a relationship signifies that your have an utmost trust in your partner and yet you are doubting him. Why is that? Are you certain that you do, completely and sincerely, trust him? Ask yourself this question and if the answer is yes; there's the solution to your problem! Stop worrying...he's just going to have a good time with his mates in a nice, entertaining city, that's all. However, if for any reasons the answer is not then maybe you're not in a stable relationship after all. In this case, sit down and have a nice chat with your partner and see what he has to say...it might not be pretty but give it a shot...might just solve your problem.
Remember, trust is a very foundation of a "stable" relationship! Open up...talk to each other!
2006-06-27 06:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by binga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you don't sound too happy about his "holiday".
Ask yourself these questions:
How old are you both?
Is it a stable relationship for him ?
Are you intending to go away somewhere together before then ?
Ask him why he is going with the lads and not taking you with him?
Does he treat you well?
I say this because my brother is in Thailand at the moment, but the girlfriend was with him in Australia and New Zealand just before he went off with the "lads" to Thailand. They have been going to "moon parties" and visiting all sorts of unusual seedy places. He is in his early twenties. He is very good to his girlfriend and she trusts him.
You have to look within yourself for the answer.
2006-06-27 02:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by biddiemurphy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pattaya is THE place to go in Thailand for bars and women. The entire tourist culture there is geared around men who want both. You can "hire" a very pretty Thai girl for very little money to accompany you 24 hours a day (if you want), and who will do anything and everything you ask, in and out of bed.
Ask him why he's going to Pattaya -- there's really only one reason to go there, and that's for sex with inexpensive and very pretty Thai girls. Any other reason is just an excuse.
Sorry :(
2006-06-27 01:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no. You are not overreacting. Pattaya is a sex city, full of sex shows and prostitution. Only sex tour has the destination there. You might be right that he has eyes for Asian women. If you want him to realize his dream with Asian girls, to get bored after that, it's your chance to let him go to Pattaya. But if you want to keep a normal stable relationship in the family, just tell him not to be there. He might get incurable disease, or even drug addict as an after shock. Or just go with him.
2006-06-27 02:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
Most of the people there have AIDS I have heard.
Unconfirmed....don't care
I know someone who went there and came back with a respiratory disease.
Can you say Bird Flu three times real fast.
I've heard that thats the place for sexual deviant types.
Cheap also a group of six can go out and eat and have six drinks
each for 15 bucks.
Most of the locals are immune to bird flu from eating some dish with raw uncooked chicken blood.
Beautiful country though
You should be real concerned.
2006-06-27 02:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a seedy place to go and yes, prostituion is very popular in this area. You can typically rent a woman for $50.00 for 24 hours and they hang out with you and have sex etc. Lots of STD's too. Up to you though if you trust your boyfriend or not. No real other reason to go to this area of the world as no real turist attractions. Maybe you should ask him which attractions there are in this area to see if he has a good reason to go there....
2006-06-27 01:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is.... There are thousands of beautiful young girls, and the price is very cheap (usually $20-$40 American). It would be tough to believe that a young man would not indulge in this while in Pattaya. If he was going for other reasons I could suggest 100 better places......sorry, but don't be fooled.
2006-06-27 01:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by sooxcited 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Angela,
You arent' over reacting unfortunately....Pattaya Thailand is the sex capital of planet earth!
2006-06-28 03:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by fantapattaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah def a sex capitla its like the bars there are full of girls you are pretty much guaranteeed to pull. But the go go bar girls are there consentually .
Would suggest he gets tested after.
there are plenty of other places to go in thailand for other stuff...
Pattya is more sex...
Think the ceilings are glass, mini skirts are plenty and panties are rare so he should come home with a sore neck...
If he does not stray whilst there you have a hyper strong relaltionship. Plus it will be a strain for him to stay pure as not so much else to there and all his mates will be going for it...
Sensd him to kho toa turtle ialand to learn to scuba dive instead or kanchanbaui to play with the tiger temple tigers.
2006-06-27 07:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋