My 92 year old gram is bedridden, terribly weak, and at a nsg home. We can not take her home, I do not have the resources. How can I best comfort her, besides just visiting?
2006-06-27 01:50:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so many wonderful ideas ... This issue is so close to my heart - thank you for your compassion and kind assistance. May God bless you all!
2006-06-27 08:26:23 · update #1
just be there for her. it is hard seeing our grandparents bedridden and weak. talk with her. my grandmother lived until she was 98 (my dad mother). don't listen to the first answer. that is a nasty thing to say to anyone. my grandmother would tell me stories about when she was a little girl and tell me things when I was younger. let her tell you things about when she was young. they are things you would never forget. remember grandma did not have a tv or radio or bathrooms in the house. we have color tv and radio and indoor bathrooms. and another thing kiss her and hug her and let her know you love her.
2006-06-27 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her an old photo album of the good times past. It would be nice if her bed tilted upward so that you could take the pressure off her for a few hours each day. Nobody feels good when they're lying prone all day long. You could make a video of family activities she can no longer attend with your camcorder and show them to her on a laptop or TV set in her room. Make sure the video has good sound too because she might not be able to hear as well.
2006-06-27 09:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend (we are in Singapore), Carol, who told me that her grandma was bedridden due to a fall, and needs special care (maid will not suffice). Her grandma, before the fall was healthy, refuses to go to nursing home but had to coz no one is able to take care of her at home. Within a month, she passes away due to depression.
I told Carol that she should have taken a private nurse and that would have solved the problem. She said that private nursing costs a bomb. This is not true. Another friend of mine had a private nurse for less than $1000 a month.
2006-06-30 01:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by howdy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs the familiar surrounding her. Pictures of her family, whether she remembers exactly who they are or not. Little pieces of her life before she had to leave her home. Sometimes it can be just a little nick-nack, or a favorite blanket or pillow. But most of all she still needs to be treated as an adult, whether she acts like one or not. Older people like to talk about the past, and you can learn many things from them, if she is strong enough. Good luck .
2006-06-27 09:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Karen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just visit alot. Take her favorite food to her or favorite desert.
Read the bible to her. Sing hymns with her or for her. Did she enjoy reading? Read a good book to her. The Notebook was really good. Just being there means more to her than you know.
Is there a pet that could lay with her a while?
2006-06-27 10:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her something handmade, not bought. Because if it is she may feel that u bought it because u didn't want to make anything. Make it so she will really like it,like maybe giving her, her fave flowers. Then tell her that u made it just for her, and that it took a a couple of days to make it, (or how long it took to actually make it.)
2006-06-27 09:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there often as you can and regularly. Try to take her things she can enjoy. Just seeing familiar faces is alot. Read to her or bring her familiar things from home. A favorite plant or Lamp. Believe it or not these things are very special and uplifting.
2006-06-27 09:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit her often. Usually people in nursing homes are very lonely and they appreciate it when company comes to visit them. I would say to visit her as often as you can and maybe send her a card every little bit just to let her know that you are thinking about her.
2006-06-27 08:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss and hug are the most common to comfort the elderly. But to do more, you have to spend time with her, talking about the old day.
2006-06-27 08:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read to her daily from the New Testament. She is close to meeting her "bridegroom" and tell her you're putting her makeup on her soul. Read from an NIV Bible or something both you and she can understand clearly.
2006-06-27 08:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋