my friend needs help..i hav no idea what i should do plz give an advice...
my friend was involved with a guy who was her best friend..they had a stable relationship until she met another guy who was very charmin and who used to make her feel like a princess..she broke up with her bf for that guy, but this guy now treats her like a doormat..my friend has been in touch with her ex who has been with her always in times of trouble..he still wants to be with her. what she should do? go back to her ex? she feels she did wrong leavin him only problem they had that he is a little boring yet nice.or continue with her bf? provided she talks things out with her current bf?
2006-06-27 01:20:19 · 15 answers · asked by true friend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She will have to suffer for the mistake she has done but it would minimize her suffering a lot if she goes back to her ex-bf.
2006-06-27 01:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that she is being badly treated by her current boyfriend. Hopefully she has learnt a lesson that looks and charms are not so important in life.
Why don't she leave the guy and be single for a while? Why does she want to jump from one relationship to the next? That's what she did and now look at what has happened.
Jumping into another relationship only means she's on a rebound, she's not thinking clearly about whether she really wants the ex or not, in the end because of another mistake repeated the relationship might not work out.
It sounds like she's not even sure that she wants the ex because you said she had a problem with the fact that he's boring. Won't that be a problem again in the future that she might just pack her bags and leave?
Tell your friend that she should take the time to let the wounds from the bad boyfriend heal then she can decide whether she wants the ex any time soon or not. Hope I could help.
2006-06-27 09:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go back to the ex. If she feels that there was some wrong doing by leaving, and this guy truly managed to hold on after she left, then he should be given the benefit of the doubt. After getting back together, it would only serve some good if the guy was told about how he is boring so that he is given the opportunity to spice things up. Most guys are not a natural at reading another's emotions.
2006-06-27 08:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by puzmen26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate herself from both of them and work out what she really wants. If the relationship with the first b/f is meant to be then it will but in time. She has already hurt him although he seems to have forgivin her. she must recall that she was not happy with this relationship and that is why she left. And without some deep thought and communication between the two this will occur again. The grass is not always greener on the other side and relationships take committment. the honeymoon period where you feel like a princess does not last forever and real life will strike in every relationship. It would be unfair to all parties involved to simply drift from one to another depending on who is the most "exciting" at the time. your friend needs time out and to get her life in order.
2006-06-27 08:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would any girl want to stay with a guy who is rude, uncaring and disrespectful? If she had a ex who wanted her or not? She has choises here. Stay with the rude one, go to the ex or standup by herself! Boyfriends are great. But there is also nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend for awhile. She needs to learn from this expierence, and sometimes that takes being alone.
2006-06-27 08:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Pj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go back to the guy that treats her like a princess. Every girl should feel that way.
2006-06-27 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by baby_genius2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to be treated like a door mat. The ex may be boring but if he treats her good, so be it. If he still wants to be with her, she should go back with him. Maybe this is a sign that it was meant to be.
dp
2006-06-27 08:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by mikemadie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend had better go where her heart is....her current bf or her ex!...she gotta choose who is the best...better her ex who showed tender love and care provided that he accepts her back!
2006-06-27 08:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the jerk and give yourself time before you decide to go back with your ex... It's not fair to treat him like sloppy seconds and you are obviously not completely happy.
2006-06-27 08:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not like her new job, doormat, go back to ex
2006-06-27 08:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋