Can someone please explain forgiveness i just cant seem to understand it??

Answer 1

Forgiveness is LETTING GO of the hurt and anger which someone inflicted on you, and getting on with your life. It means you are not going to let this eat you up like cancer.It does not have to mean that you are going to be buddies with the ones who hurt you.

Answer 2

people often misinterpret forgiveness for being "weak" or "demeaning" or "giving up some of your rights or personality"
but that's not the case..when you forgive someone after they hurt you..what you are really doing is "letting go" of those negative feelings you can't seem to shake off (hatred,anger,disgust..etc) that this person has caused you,
and really,these feelings can be draining not only to your soul but also to your health!
so holding on to these feelings will be like allowing THAT person to make your life a living hell even AFTER whatever it was that they did to you..and the only way to get rid of those feelings and feel normal again is to forgive them..
so really..by forgiving you are helping yourself ;)
it's a win-win

Answer 3

Think of whoever offended you as a fellow human being, a person with faults, and a person who may themselves regret what they did. Think that you are often guilty of hurting others. Think of the endless circle of harm if you return the "favor." Think how you can move on after you forgive, instead of stooping down, although you do need to honor your right to be hurt and angry. That being said, I think that if someone raped one of my kids, I'd probably have a very hard time conrolling my urge to kill them. But, rationally, I will try. And, if you believe in a Higher Power, know that justice will be done.

Answer 4

In Buddhism, forgiveness involves compassion and empathy, seeing the issue from the other person's point of view. It's not just a matter of saying "I won't kill you for it," but also saying, "I didn't realize you felt that way."

Probably the same in other religions, but I'd never heard it explained like that until I studied Buddhism. Hope that helps a little.

Answer 5

Forgiveness is not that difficult.
Repent, and ask for forgiveness in Jesus name and God will forgive you.
Forgive those that do you wrong. Don't tell them unless they ask.
But forgive in your own heart and pray to God.
Matthew 6:14-15

Answer 6

Forgiving . . .well, I think its' devine. y'know like just let it go ! To forgive you must feel in your heart, and be able to forget it. This doesn't always happen immediately , it has to be worked on. . . like so many things in our lives. For your own happiness try to reconnect/reestablish , work out the problem(s) , then move on , trying to forgive and forget the way ahead will be clear and you won't be wasting your time/life thinking on/of it. Before long, its' gone !

Answer 7

It's hard to truly forgive. Forgiveness is erasing everything. Like they say forgive And forget. Our Lord says to forgive so you too will be forgiven.

Answer 8

Well, when you are wronged, it does you no good to hold the stress and anger of the wrong in your heart, so forgiveness is how you are able to start to relieve it, and perhaps, if the wrong was unintentional, you might do the same kind of healing for the other person.

Answer 9

We need to seek God and ask Him to forgive us of our sins.

We need also to forgive other people for what every they have done to harm us (in any way). This means that we no longer hate them, are angry with them, refuse to speak with them, etc...

We can pray that God will help us to forgive them and to give us a love for them that He has for them.

Answer 10

forgiveness is a gift to yourself. It sets you free from whatever hurt was laid on you. It means that person has no power to hurt you again. It frees you from the weight of anger and bitterness. It doesn't mean you accept whatever injustice or injury was heaped on you, it means you accept it happened but you are able to move on from it without needing to avenge it.