can it wreck a relationship afterwards
2006-06-27 00:43:09 · 16 answers · asked by sarb d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Couples who are in love never want to share their partner in a threesome situation, no matter how insistent they are that 'it will be ok'. It won't be ok. Not now, not ever again. If you are looking for a way to create disharmony, stress, upset, jealousy and insecurity, there is no faster way. You will permenantly damage your relationship, your self-esteem and possibly your mental health.
It won't be what you expect. If we are talking one man and two girls, be prepared for the girls to start getting it on and completely ignoring you for more than an hour. Be prepared for premature ejaculation, be prepared to be unable to get a hard on in front of two women. Be prepared for your girlfriend to lose patience and storm out if you start paying too much attention to your guest. Be preapared for the guest to start stalking you. Be prepared for the fact that she may look awful naked. Be preapred for the unthinkable that you won't be able to satisfy two women.
After the event be prepared for your girlfriend to hate you and that you may start to hate her. Be prepared to fall out of love. Be prepared for your girlfriend to decide that she is a lesbian/bisexual/wants an open relationship.
Whilst it is a great fantasy and a favourite of many men it is not a very good thing to do. In a loving realtionship it should be kept as a fantasy. There is too much to lose. Why risk it when there are other much more exciting things you can experiment with together which will bond you more strongly together?
2006-06-27 02:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
I just wanted to comment that all the replies I read so far seem to be about a guy with two girls - perhaps because the answers guess that is what you're talking about (and of course because it is many men's fantasy)
I just want to say, how about one woman and two men?
I think that could be great for the woman and less good for the guys, especially of one of the guys was a bit insecure.
I haven't tried it....but I do fantasise that it would be great....(either two men or two women)
I agree with the answerers who say be careful if you bring it into a long term relationship, and I've heard a very sad story about a very painful break up.
So I'd say, if you're youngish and single - go for it.
If you're a very secure person - go for it.
If not, stick with the beautiful fantasy!!
2006-06-30 01:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own personal experience, I have truly enjoyed it and have truly regretted it! If you want to find out a little more about it, I would suggest going to a "Swingers" web-site. There are some very informative sites where you can ask questions or chat on a forum. Hope this was helpful and "Good Luck"! P.S. Another bit of advice [if/when] you are in that situation would be to "respect" everyone involved and don't "impose your will"!
2006-06-27 01:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Metallicamoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it rocks your boat why not - I think it could wreck a relationship but each to their own - I have never tried and don't think I would but I don't have a problem with what others decide to do after all it's all about choice. So if your having an orgy ENJOY! Lol.
2006-06-27 00:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by missieclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be the most erotic experience,or the utmost disaster. It all depends on who is involved. Remember, most couples looking for a single,are only after their own gratification. Make sure your not only being used, but are using for your pleasure. I am single and have had 2 experiences which turned out very amicable for all parties involved. I recommend it highly.
2006-06-27 01:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by philmac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is strong then a 3some would be good. But if either person in the relationship is a tad bit insecure then don't do it because it will kill the relationship.
3some are best when their are no emotional connections among the people involved.
2006-06-27 00:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by fguz77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can ruin relationships and worse dont no personally not into that kind of thing plus i love getting all of the attention
2006-07-03 23:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Blonde_o2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its da bomb man ! but dont do it with ur girlfriend and her friend cuz it will F U C K up ur relationship! however if u r gonna do it make sure you focuse on ur girlfirend! ( trust me ) but yeah man 2 girls givin u oral at the same time its just great man !
2006-06-27 00:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on the mental make up of the people involved. Was all partys involves willing to do this or was one forced to?
2006-06-27 00:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The experience could have been so much better if one of the guys hadn't been a complete and utter bastard.
2006-06-27 00:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋