...to have a major crush on someone you've never met???
I've got talking to a certian someone on-line and he's really sweet & special. I'm 26. He's 18?? Is that weird?? I'm probably going way beyond anything possible here, and I don't usually have a problem with age gaps but... I have a son, and I wouldn't want any 18 yr old getting involved with any 26 yr old who has a child, it's not good for them to get bogged down by other peoples responsibilities. I mean, what am i talking about. That's NEVER gonna happen in this situation. He lives on the other side of the world! But I just wondered what all your views were??
2006-06-27 00:40:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now - 'm not saying I'm falling in love, I just really like the guy! I know people can lie on-line, but I sorta get thefeeling he's genuine!
2006-06-27 01:10:56 · update #1
I don't really intend on any of this to happen with he and I - It's just a hypothetical question about our scenario - a dn again - I'm not in love!!! LOL
2006-06-27 01:16:14 · update #2
Hi,
Anything is possible...
Just have faith and belief in the person you like!!
Never let people tell you it's fake/phony, what if it's true?
And you let a chance for happiness pass you by never to return?
Thanks!!
2006-06-27 01:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by East Bay Punk 4 · 10⤊ 5⤋
Anything is possible but like the last question I just answered regarding age differences, the age difference doesn't matter as much as the past experiences of the individuals getting involved. He is 18 fresh out of school and i assume no kids, you obviously have been at least one serious relationship that resulted in a child...thats a lot for an 18 to handle who is just getting to know who he is, AND you haven't even met him so you really dont know if anything he has told youa bout himself is true. B' careful.
2006-06-27 07:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its possible and it can b good for you to, especially if you handle it right !
Take That announced a comeback Gig and half of the women in the office almost fainted, thats a crush on people that they have never met, yet, they have spoken words that meant something to them, looked right etc and thats been enough.
Just sit back and enjoy the smiles and if it makes your world a shinier place then there is no harm done.
The warning signs are when substance fails, claims are simply unrealistic or you find yourself dependant upon the fix, if its meant to be then it will happen. Sit back, enjoy the flirting and be careful x
2006-06-27 08:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by willw8andc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just go with the flow and see what happens. If something does happen and this guy is willing to handle the responsibilities of your child then so be. If not then just have a bit of fun and enjoy yourself, not everything is meant to last!
About the age thing, don't worry about it, there are stranger thing in the world than a 8 year age gap.
2006-06-27 07:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not weird. Have you met him b4? He may lie to you about his age. However, This shouldn't get more serious that talking online. You may regret involving him in your life and your child's life as well.
Keep up the friendship but nothing should materialise out that. Imagine him being a (Step) father to your son. Would he be fit for this status? Move on and good luck. Keep searching for Mr perfect.
2006-06-27 07:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by James K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't fallen in love with the person; you've fallen for his personna and the perception of who you think he is.
Even worse...if you've seen him on web cam and he's attractive...then you have aesthetics matched with your perception and wham...your hooked baby.
My suggestion is meet first....take a nice long time face to face getting to know the real boy...then if you're still loopy for him...take it to the next level.
Bottom line is...this is a two dimensional environment of communication....
90% of western communication is with body language and non-verbal cues...10% is through the text of what's being said...you got the 10% and added the rest and fell in love with...yourself...basically.
To date, and this is studied every year...the success rate of on line relationships remains AT the first standard deviation...
meaning...no one can prove that they will NEVER work out...but as of yet...the success rate is so fractionally minute that it remains at the first deviation point until more data is collected.
They (College students in general - myself included back in the late 90s) do one year, 5 year, and 10 year studies because the 20 year study of success is interrupted by the normal divorce rate of non-online relationships which seem to end on an average of 14 years. The results suggest...doomed from the beginning...my think has always been because of the lack of real life interaction...
Chemistry is a huge determinant.
2006-06-27 07:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two world two mind. Lay the cards on the table and try reduce the emotions that goes into this. Marriage it should be and not a deception. Ask him to say with all sincerity what he really wants. Tell him in all sincerity why you think he can be the one for you.
You can start your life and live it to the fullest, forget your one vchild state.
2006-06-27 08:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wory about the age gap dear!
Chances are that your "18 yr old" is actuallya 48 year old bald divorcee with 2 grown up sons more than half your age!
2006-06-27 07:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible.....
crush happens for different reasons for different people... it really doesn't depends on the looks.... trust me...
crush happens when something of someone clicks in your mind and make a mark there... that mark cannot be erased... it only makes you think about the person every now and then....
you are sensible enough to understand that the union is not possible, so i will not be commenting on that topic... but trust me, i have seen a relation like what you have described... a guy of 20 yrs marrying a lady of 31 who had one child..... so you cannot rule that out....
you have a crush, tell it to him.... never hide feelings....... thats what mitr always says.....
2006-06-27 07:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not a huge age gap.. i fell in love with sum guy on here b4 we had even met.. so just do wot u feel is right 4 u.. not wot u think others think is ok.. its ur life so u need 2 live it.. not any1 else good luck and hope it works out 4 u
2006-06-27 07:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by pankypaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it as how it is,. a fantasy... i can flirt with you and wind you up by being really nice on the internet.. but maybe i am a 45 stone axe-murderer... go out into the world and meet some new people... , you sound kind and nice..and sensitive, so you wont be alone very long... give me a call.. lol ... x
(see, you might fall in love with me)
2006-06-27 07:50:22 · answer #11 · answered by paulrb8 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋