Is living with your mom while you are married a bad idea?

Question

My husband and i lost our appartment and we are now liveing with my mother. I'm pregnant and she treats my husband like her own slave what should i do?

Answer 1

Move out ASAP. Good Luck and Good Fortune.

Answer 2

Wait, wait. I just read your other question. Your husband cheats on you? I take it that he lost his job and that is why you lost your apartment? I'm sorry you chose so poorly. Your mom probably knows what kind of boy your husband is and that is why she treats him this way. I am sorry, but I don't think that your problem is with your living situation, I think it is with your husband. I would suggest kicking him out for a while until he gets a job and quits cheating. Then again, I am a firm believer in once a cheater, always a cheater. Your mother is showing you and your guy kindness because she loves you and her soon to be grandchild. I am sure you love your husband and want to have a normal family, but it sure isn't starting out that way. Losing a job is one thing, getting you pregnant and then cheating on you over and over and then on top of it all using your mom for room and board is completley unacceptable. Look into getting an annulment or a divorce, thank your lucky stars for having a mother that would help you out, and have a healthy baby. Don't expect your mother to raise your new child, you are going to have to get a job and I doubt your husband will help out that much. He's got a right to see the child, but he better help you out at least financially. I could be wrong, he could of just freaked out when you got pregnant and was going through a phase. Families with a happily married mom and dad are always what everyone would like. Maybe just have him move out until he gets his stuff straight and give it one more try to save the marraige. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

Answer 3

what really matters is how do you feel about being there at your mothers house, if shes OK with it and you and your husband are OK with it then it should be OK. as to your mom treating your husband as a slave, he is a big boy and has his own mouth, tell him to not do anything he doesn't want to do and that he should talk to your mom and tell her how he feels. i think you should be very grateful to your mother for letting you stay there and savor every minute of it. since you are there, now you can save some money for the baby. good luck and take care.

Answer 4

First of all you should know that your mom is one of the human beings.
She (all mothers as well) will definitely, say 99%, hates their son in law. Your mother has forgotten that she was also somebody's daughter in law. These mothers and mother in laws forget their past. I will call all such women are cursed.
You will be hated by your mother in law in the same way.
It is better to be away from them for some time or for ever, if you need peace of mind. This is a lesson for your life. Learn and become a good mother for your self and your child. Experience is a good school, but its fees are very heavy.
There are baby sitting centres to look after your baby.
Try to be independent and on your own if you want to maintain your peace and respect for your self and for your husband.
Dependence is pain - this you always keep in mind. As far as possible never live with parents and in laws, till your child reaches at least 5 years. It is good for you to keep them away and such human beings, by entering into your personal life.
Because you are depending on your mother for shelter, she uses her selfishness and superiority, in one or the other way, to make you understand that your stay with her is not liked and accepted by her.
You should not give up your liberty and independence to any one on this earth, for the sake of silly matters.
It is your life, learnt to be independent rather than living under the mercy of somebody.
If your husband is cooperative, then he will support you in all your trials and tribulations and you will maintain happiness and let him have happiness.
I repeat DEPENDANCE IS PAIN. Now, think and act fast.

Answer 5

You need to have a talk with your mom about this. And you and your husband both need to not try but do everything you can to get your lives straightened around and get back on your feet. You have a child on the way, the last thing that child needs is negativity.

Answer 6

Living with mom's it's not that bad ...but, you definitely need your privatesy ...but, know that after a while you will start smelling the coffee and it will be time to move on ...especially with your husband and the kids to come....good luck...try finding a place soon ..... PS.. before ..your husband start feeling unwelcome ..when he will say no to your mother's demand i will run out of the house...

Answer 7

hmm. TAlk to your mom communication is the key. save up some money and move out. YOu can buy a duplex and rent the back house to help you pay off the house. :| Sorry to hear that though. Living with inlaws is always not a really good idea.

Answer 8

it is not wrong to live with ur mother. just talk to ur mother and clear everything that he is ur husband and a family member not a slave to treat like that
its all about time
time will change once again

Answer 9

I lived with my mother when I got married , at first everything
peachy then my mother and my sister turn against my wife
calling her a whore so my advice to you is rent a room somewhere after the baby comes.

Answer 10

For now, maybe you don't have much of a choice. Your Husband is a big boy, and he can probably bear this for a while, because the most important thing right now is your child !!!

Answer 11

nothing wrong in staying with your mo m but why do u say that she treats your husband as a slave? there is nothing wrong if your husband does help her. tell your husband to treat your mother as his mother.it is your duty to help your mother as she has helped u to stay with her. there should always be give & take policy.