i broke up with her 1.5 months ago..she asked me to forget her and look for other gals...but we been contacting each other since we broke up and when finally able to get over her and thinking of getting a new gf or remain single she make some funny action that confuse me that she want to patch up with me...recently she call me early in the morning to wake me up for the first time in 1.5 months... she call me almost everyday asking homeworks but talk mostly other stuff than works...but yet she keep telling me she want to be single and dont want BF...she want me to company to all places that i promised to bring her when we stead and keep raking about the past telling me how much she miss those times...yet she say she have no feeling for me...shoulf i just remain cold and treat her as a normal friend? what she want from me?
2006-06-26 19:57:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be a friend, but get another chick on the side.
2006-06-26 20:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so sad, so sad that you have feelings for her but you have it in mind that she broke your heart, so the chances of the relationship working out should the two of you get back together are quite slim I'm afraid.
First of all it's very difficult to be friends with an ex especially when one of them still have feelings for the other.
Secondly because she probably found herself someone whom she thought was better than you or she just got tired of you so she didn't hesitate to break your heart.
Thirdly and this is very important is that she's messing with your mind and your feelings.
The girl is confused, how can you reason with a confused girl? She'll just confuse you further. Until now she doesn't know what she wants or maybe she isn't really getting many invitations from guys so she thought she might try the "sucker" that she broke his heart ones.
the decision is up to you in the end but let me ask you somethings. Are you up for the heartbreak again? Do you completely trust that she won't do it again/has she changed her habit of encouraging you to date other girls and is she worth it? Is she worth it?
The thing is some people are afraid of commitments and they'll break off a relationship for no apparent reason and if you are looking for a commitment then I suggest you look elsewhere and move on with your life - without her.
2006-06-27 07:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brother just ended up a similar sorta thing in my life... i have a qs posted in my profile about it too...
listen... i think that you need to decide first up whether you want her back or not... and while deciding that just consider the possibility that she might do the same to you again... just keep that in mind.. and dude... since you are having feelings for her you wont realize it right now.. but she is being a little selfish and girls are like that .... she has broken up with you cuz she doesnt want the formalities and sincere part of it... yet she wants to positive things of you... get it? i mean she doesnt want the bad things that come with the relationship AND at the same time she doesnt want to let go the good bit i.e. fun hanging around with you and all... and she might not be able to walk around alone cuz she cant stand ppl asking her qs as to why she broke up with you... guilt brother!
i think you need to move on... just tell her that you cant be friends with her.... i told my ex.. the same thing..... from friends to relationship is YES!! but from relationship to friendship... never..! Just let this sink in to you.. and think aobut oyu.. you ll know that i am correct..
Move on brother.. and remember one thing... it seems that way but after patchups.. things are never the same.... cuz whenever there is an issue she ll think that oyu are taking advantage of her since she made the mistake and you "supposedly did a favor" to her by giving her a chance to come back... and on the other hand.. you ll get always feel that she was always wrong.. and she was wrong when she broke up... and this issue will come up... seriously!! i am telling you...
dude... she might be a great person.. but i dont think its going to work out between you two anymore... if you still think you have a chance and its different from all the people who are telling you not to go ahead with it (which is like alot of people) then go ahead with it :) my advice is clear... move on bro!!
Good luck
2006-06-27 04:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Vantage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is very confused as to what she wants. At the same time, it sounds like she is trying to keep you in her life, but just not as a bf, but she seems to want you back despite the fact she says otherwise.
If she is so confused like this, who knows how long it will take her to make up her mind as to what she wants.
So it may be better for you to cut ties completely with her so you can move on and find a nice lady who knows what she wants and won't keep you guessing.
Once she hears you are seeing someone else, she may get upset and angry and that may cause her to move on as well.
Good Luck!
2006-06-27 03:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she wants. But most importantly: what do YOU want? Now you let her make all the decisions and you stay with her like some dog on a leash, wondering if she stays or goes or what her next move will be. Its time you take charge of your own life again. If you want her back ask her if she wants it too. If you want to move on, stop seeing her so much and tell her to back off a bit. You control your own life - not her, and its time she sees that.
2006-06-27 03:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is expecting to ask her again to be your girlfriend or something like that.With saying that she doesn't want boyfriend maybe she pretends and don't want to admit that 1.5 months ago she left you and now she regret for it.Just tell her that you are not interested in her anymore, or if you want a more easier way, than tell her about some girl you want to date with, that you will ask this girl out etc., just to understand that she is not more in your life
Good luck
2006-06-27 03:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time. She doesn't know what she wants exactly. But spell out to her clearly your feelings for her so you won't be waiting quietly. Does she really want you to find another? How do you feel about it?
You can also try not contacting her for a week and look at her reaction. then you can ask her... do you feel lost without me? woooo....
2006-06-27 03:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, break ups are hard, but my philosophy is that if you break up then you should not talk to one another until you can heal yourself. Once you are healed, then if you feel that you can still be friends, then go for it....but, if not then you need to tell her you can't be friends anymore.
2006-06-27 03:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how old you and she are but I think shes being very selfih and immature. shes just using you..you sound like anice guy you desrve better....tell her to bug off you dont need this kind of crap lifes to short get on with it without someone like her..........otherwise shell keep it up.
2006-06-27 03:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lucinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she`s being a c*ck tease. you need to stop hanging out with her period. she`s just trying to make you feel bad for the break up.
2006-06-27 03:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋