Hi. I came out of a 2 year relationship 5 - 6 months ago, and lately I have been feelign great. I have got self-confidence again, no longer think I am ugly and getting on with my life (Though I do still think about my ex on the odd occasion, but hey). I am a genuine guy, good looking, successful and have a great personality. The thing is, when I see a girl who I find attractive, I just let it go by. I wanna go and say 'Hi', but I can't. I'm afriad of rejection I guess and if she won't be as good like my previous relationship. Basically, what do girls expect when a guy comes up to them, do you like it? Just need tips on crossing that bridge. Thanks in advance.
2006-06-26 19:56:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Smile, being genuinely polite and do not stare. Be relaxed and feel out the situation. You need to think more along the lines of finding out if you like the girl, not just worrying about her liking you--maintain your self respect.
2006-06-26 20:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean randomly?
Like a stranger out of no where?
Well, you have to let them know what you are about but without telling them (in your own words).
1st make a good impression with others around you & maybe people she is with. She'll pick up on your vibe. You know when people walk into a room it's your presence they notice. Give them time to get comfortable being around you. That way when you try to talk to her; it won't be so awkward. And in case she's not available you won't have to risk being rejected. I've learned so much by just noticing little things. She might even make the 1st move. Take your time, the good ones are usually worth waiting for.
2006-06-27 03:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all deal with rejection(its the main theme of my sci-fi/mystery novel, The Last Rejeciton).
If you want to approach women, then do it. Just don't do it in a creepy way. Confidence is good. The main thing to remember is that you should NOT care what other people think about you. We all make mistakes, so don't beat yourself up if you mess up an approach.
You don't have to approach women though. That's something you need to decide, what you want to do.
2006-06-27 03:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. A hot guy would have no problem, might even get a number, but I suppose most girls would love to be observed, wanted.
I find that approaching girls IRL only increases your self-confidence. If you want a new beau, be friends with her first, or get online.
2006-06-27 03:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pretty paper doesn't mean the gift inside is just as or is more pretty. Sounds like an ancient Chinese proverb.....and I just created it.
But it's very true. Look beyond the physical, go up to this girl and focus on knowing her as a person. If you catch this girl, you and she can have fun w/ the physical stuff later on.
2006-06-27 03:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence, even if you have to fake it at first, is a very attractive quality. You could look like Brad Pitt, but if you are acting insecure, you lose all chances of appearing attractive. Girls like guys who are sure of themselves, funny, kind, polite, and in the end, being good looking helps.
2006-06-27 03:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by scheiem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't be nervous, because when a guy is not comfortable with being there, we can sense it. But as long as your comfortable, confidant, and in good humor. You shouldnt have any problems crossing that bridge.
2006-06-27 03:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by blabalbalus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋