Why am I a heartbreaker and why don't long term relationship work for me?

Question

I had 3 boyfriends. I asked them out and break them up. After my first boyfriend (dated for 4 months), long term relationship don't work with me. I dated the second boyfriend for a week and I dated the third boyfriend for TWO DAYS! Now I have a new boyfriend that I had been dating for a day. How can I make the relationship strong? How can I not break his heart and be his girlfriend for a long time? Please answer!

Answer 1

In all, 100% honesty... wait until you grow up a bit...

Answer 2

It's very simple: You are addicted to the rush you experience when you meet someone new and discover there is an attraction between the two of you.

You are like the hunter who starts dreaming of the next big catch the minute you kill your target.

You will have to deal with the fact that only one part of you likes the idea of a long-term relationship. Most of the rest of you does not want that.

Think of it this way: Everybody wants to put away money for their retirement, but few people want to sacrifice the cash to put it in the bank for later. Everyone likes the idea of having a large sum of cash in the bank, but getting there requires some hardship.

The same is true for a long-term relationship: You have to sacrifice: You have to give up the thrill of the hunt. You have to give up the thrill of finding a new infatuation.

I'm not judging you: You need to do what you want but you need to get your whole self in agreement with what you want.

Bear in mind that having a series of short-term relationships has a major downside as well. But I don't even have to explain that to you, do I?

Answer 3

I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. My sons are 14 and 16 and they have a different girlfriend every other week. It's the joy of being young, and trying to figure out what you might want in a future partner/husband/wife. You are supposed to be enjoying life right now and I wouldn't worry about the inability to keep a steady. Just have fun and don't fret it. Plenty of time for all that later. :)

Answer 4

You sound like a young lady so let me tell you that there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. It's not bad to date several different people, but you need to be safe if you're having sex. Play the field. Pretty soon you'll get bored with that and settle down with someone. The best part is that you'll know what you want and can make wiser choices.

Answer 5

you have not had any examples of healthy relationships to base your own behavior in your relationships.
as such, you base your behavior on what you have been exposed to, your perspective, your point of view, all of which have been determined by the unhealthy, self-destructive experiences of people all around you growning up. they are not the only examples you can follow.
obviously, if you knew better you would behave differently because the payoff is so much better, but you don't. so you rely on what you know. most people are not experts at relationships. most people learn through trial & error. (not the most effective method. lots of mistakes made.) even learning from books is less painful!
maybe, you feel that you don't deserve a better quality of relationship. where did you get that idea from? who told you that & how important were they to you that you would believe it?
investigate & inform yourself on how to be healthier in your role in a relationship & you may find better, nurturing ones to be in.
the roller coaster you're on is going nowhere.

Answer 6

you are a heartbreaker because you are probably in grade school or high school and that's what happens. eventually you will have the reputation of being a whore from all the different guys you have dated and i'm sure that will help you stop.