honestly, does sex really matter in a relationship? And what if the girl your seeing is a virgin? Does that make it better?
2006-06-26 18:18:52 · 29 answers · asked by Inferno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex doesn't matter if you haven't already reached the spiritual or emotional (whichever the couple wants to go with) level of connection that absolutely MUST come first. Anyone who is all about sex isn't the right guy to be with. As far as virginity... Alot of guys find it a turn on, but if you have reached the level of connection previously mentioned, then it should only make them happy that they are the first ones that you have felt that for. Seriously, when you both members are at least ready for the commitment of a raising a child together, then sex will come, but not necessarily be important. It'll just be something the couple does because they want to be closer.
Of course, some would accuse this to be the ramblings of a romantic dreamer, but hey, that's my point of view.
2006-06-26 18:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex matters, but this should only be an issue if you are old enough for it. I don't know about the virgin thing, because I have never had sex with a virgin. I have heard it feels better, but I assume that the guys telling me have very small penis's, else why would they be regaling me with stories about their sex lives. So there you go, it matters, but don't do it until you are well into your teenage years, and then make sure to use protection!!! The last thing you need is a child or an STD because of one foolish mistake.
2006-06-26 18:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important. But so is communication and mutual interests and general chemistry. If sex is the only thing to a relationship, then it really isn't much of a relationship. As far as virgins, it just means no one else has been there. It is special and shouldn't be treated lightly. As far as making it better? The relationship as a whole or the first sexual experience? Don't let sex be the absolute focus and try for a real connection ith your partner.
2006-06-26 18:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Joe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl isnt wanting to have sex in a relationship I am perfectly fine with that(i am waiting for marriage.) If sex is what is holding my relationship with someone together I really shouldn't be in that relationship. I would want a stronger bond than that.
I would like a virgin, because then I know its someone with no experience like me, but she doesnt have to be a virgin. Either way, sex shouldn't matter in a relationship.
2006-06-26 18:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters, but it's psychological and hormonal. All that stuff a guy says about what all the reasons are you must sleep together or you don't love him or you're a tease or just like the babble of junkie. He might feel that way, but you're enabling him, or letting him manipulate you to scratch an itch, if you let him for that reason. Not every guy is like that, but it is most of them, at least in youth. Those hormones are pretty strong stuff, and so are yours, as you'll discover, but not so much in the same way.
Sleeping with a virgin is only better for the ego of the guy, who wants maximum response and minimum comparison. He wants to be the Big Cheese, the Deliverer of Ecstacy, the most powerful lover in the world, but really, he's probobly quite inexperienced and lackluster, so the point of a virgin is really that she has nothing to compare him to.
2006-06-26 18:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by shhh9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is and only should be part of a marrital relationship...I all ready told myself that I won't have sex with a girl until we get married...and about the virgin thing...beign a virgin is hott so let the virgins rock on...they have been able to stay away from sex and resist it...that is hard to do in todays world so being a vrigin is kind of a turn on
2006-06-26 18:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but i have asked guys this, and most of them say that sex does really matter, and if the gurl is a Virgin then most are respectful and wait until she is ready, but they are frustrated when the gurl wants to wait til marriage if that is not the same idea the guy is willing to go for. But each guy is different, and I dont like to generalize. (tho i am interested as to what guys reply here to your question.)
2006-06-26 18:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by RockerChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are pigs. So, to them, sex IS important. And those same piggy guys will also say that a virgin is best because she is tight. They could care less that a virgin is un-tainted goods. They just care that their tiny peckers can't be compared to anyone else and they care that it barely fits! How would the virgin know any different, weather he was big or small?!?!
2006-06-26 18:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by pink_phish22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex does not make a relationship, the people in it do, sex is what should come after getting to know them and wanting to share in an expression of intimacy upon that love that you already share.
it only really matters then and it feels better to because its meant, not just some sex act but pure love making at its best.
2006-06-26 18:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex matters only if I want to have children, but then I can always adopt one. Sex does not matter, but it certainly adds flavors to the relationship. It's like adding seasoning on to a good dish.
2006-06-26 18:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋