I have been seeing this man for 5 yrs. We have a 3 yrold son. He has also been seeing another girl on and off and they have a child too. He had seen her before me but there kid is only 6 mths older than ours. He sleeps with me stays at my house1-2X/wk. but never really commits to anything too serious like family functions..we go to dinner I know everyone in his life, at work, family and all his friends and vice versa but yet i feel something is just lacking. He also tells me he loves me now which he never used to until about 1 month ago. Believe me it was a long time I waited for that! I think he loves both of us. Is that frickin possible! He has told me when he was intoxicated that if I ever get pregnant again he will marryme. And he said the woman he marries is between one of his babies mommas because he isn't tryin to go out and be with someone else. Which I do believe that, I just wish he would stop seeing both of us. What the hell do I do?
2006-06-26 18:15:17 · 16 answers · asked by jlo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-06-26 18:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by arajaajmali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why didn't you do something when he started seeing the other girl. You also said that his child to the other girl is 6 months younger so if you're together he cheated on you. What are you still doing with him? I don't want to be so blunt but this guy seems like he's scared to be alone. Now he probably has some feeling that you're getting confused and hurt by the situation so he tells you stuff that you wanted to hear so you won't leave him at all and still give you hope that there's still future for both of you. if I were you i'll make sure of everything about his feelings and if he's telling the truth, whilst you're doing this keep thinking about your son. There's a child involve and believe me when I say it will be really hard for him when the time comes. Make the guy choose between you too. It's all or nothing.
2006-06-26 18:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lalaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, u shouldn't be second 2 any other female. Believe i went thru a similar situation. He hasn't chosen between u 2 yet and why would he? U 2 girls are letting him be wit both of u obviously so he's having his cake and ice cream. So of course as long as he can get away wit not choosing he will. U need 2 understand that u deserve better than that. Not some1 whose going 2 tell u they would marry u if u had another baby, or jus becuz he was drunk. U deserve some1 whose going to love u and want 2 marry u and be wit u and ONLY u. Girl, i think he is playing games wit u and his other baby momma. And i kno it may hurt, but u need 2 find some1 who is going 2 love jus U. There are plenty of guys out there would be a one woman man. and i don't think he is that guy. Yes u have a baby by him, but that doesn't mean u have to be wit him. And its going 2 take time 2 get over him obviously but u need 2 start trying 2 becuz i don't think this relationship is going newhere netime soon. Jus my opinion, I went thru almost the same thing.
2006-06-26 18:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by ANC_40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Oh come on now........ Dump him and if he is worth a ****, he will come crawling back....... If he does not then get on with your life and make sure the next man has some balls and knows how to be a good husband to you. He is doing this only because you have enabled him to do so.. Give the ultimatum, and deal with the outcome of it. And if he stays around after that make sure he gets that you are serious. Unless a loving and exclusive relationship does not mean anything to you. Respect your self and use that back bone sister.......~
2006-06-26 18:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by ~Amberlen Rio` ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um this isn't rocket science you said it all when you said the other girls kid is 6 months older than yours, and you guys have been together 5 years. He might love you, but not be in love with you there is a difference he obviosly has NO respect for you or her or your children. You should move on and find someone who truly makes you priority don't settle for this disrespectful have his cake and eat it to loser. You Deserve Better!
2006-06-26 18:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by beachdiva954 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh lets see you dump his dumb *** he is playing the polygamy game on the both of you. He dosn't have true feelings for either of you he is just telling you what you want to hear becasue you probably expected it or pressured it out of him. He likes the arrangement he has cause neither of you do not stand up to him and tell him what you want from him so he is honestly thinking it is ok. If it was up to him he would probably have a 3 some with the both of you. and probably just combine the family with you and the other girl I know it sounds sick but you got to get yourself out. Its not going to get any better.
2006-06-26 18:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Frankie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this again, but he is using both of you ladies. Someone will come along and love you and your son, and will deserve the love you have to give in return. But whatever you do, don't let that bastard knock you up again to try and one up the other girl. You will be in the same situation, just with two kids instead of one. Good luck to you!
2006-06-26 18:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he truly loves you, then you would be the only person that he is with. The way to tell is the fact that he has a child with another woman. If it takes him being intoxicated to say that he'll marry you, then it's more likely lust, not love. you should have left him sooner and spared yourself any heartache it would cause.
2006-06-26 18:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by kiatzu_shutendo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not love you, and the best things to do for you and your
child is kick this man to the curb. there he can see all the women
he want to see. you need someone that going to love you, respect
you. not play games with your feelings. this in and out nonsense
would be history. he would be so gone. like yesterday newspaper
after 5 years he would been so done. i mean done..........
2006-06-26 18:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that stupid.......or a polygamist in training? Look, if he's screwing another girl, he doesn't love you. He won't marry you if have another kid, so please don't try. But, by him saying crap to you he gets to keep you and fcuk two chicks whenever he feels like it. So you tell me....what you would do in his shoes?
2006-06-26 18:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋