is non-adultery basis divorce allowed for christian believer?

Question

If suffering with the women for 8 years after marriage and 6 years of cheating (acting as a good girl) before marriage. and total of 14 years of suffering should be prolonged or to be concluded by divorce. I don't want to defend myself by saying I am perfect by I used some anger words and acted angrily with wife to change her to live with me, to make her known about her faults (this anger followed by soft and sweet way of explaining and waited patiently for years) and to make her known of the value of married life, value of bringing up the children, the value of living as a good believer and good witness etc, but she never changed never realised her faults never felt sorry(if she appologize it is for a name sake and she will behave the same of worst then her previous mistakes) never seemed to be changing. Can a christian believer still suffer with her. If need to live with her I need to sacrifice my parents she doesnt want me to help them in thier old age were as she earns 4her family

Answer 1

DIVORCE AND SEPARATION Most of you, say you believe in Jesus, but the problem is, many of you do not want to obey what He & the Writers of the Bible tell you.

"We may claim to love God, but how we react to what his inspired Word, the Bible, teaches will reveal our true thoughts, even the very intentions of the heart." In other words, you have your on thoughts on the matter, & heck with what the Bible says. But I'm going to take the time to explain what the Scriptures say about Divorce & Remarriage.

God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.

In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?

One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.

Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.”—Psalm 11:5.

Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality—one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate.—Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.

However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.”—Matthew 5:32.

The Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not.—Matthew 5:32.

After telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)

Answer 2

You can suffer through the rest of your life ruled by the distant ignorant ramblings of ancient men, or you can realize you are probably smarter than any of them, and certainly know your own situation better than they.

You have to decide that one.

From an Old Testament perspective, a man can divorce at will. From a New Testament perspective, adultery is the only allowed cause for divorce.

...but it's just a silly book of mythology.

Answer 3

I think you should talk to your Pastor and to God.No one deserves to be treated like a door mat.But God knows what's best for you.

Answer 4

Biblically, no your not supposed to. But, you have to deal with that with God, noone can tell you here whats best for you to do.

Personally, you should get out.

Answer 5

Have you had counselling with your minister?