I am shy How can i over come it?

Question

I am very shy when I am around some people i am not use to and don't know. How can i over come it? Also how can I not get shy when I want/need to ask a question?

Sometimes I feel unconfortable around some people too.

I am 15 years old and had the shiness for a couple or more years. I never have always been as shy as I am now.

I am almost always the quite one exspecially since i go to a school where in know nobody but like my teachers and my 2-3 friends. Also around my parents i am not that quite compared to other moments

I am usually not all that shy when i am on the computer unless something seems unconforable to me ONE FRIENDLY GIRL2KNOW

Answer 1

think about why you are shy, why you are afraid to talk to someone. then tell yourself, it's not the end of the world if you do. weigh the bennefits of talking to someone vs. the bennefits of not. really, it won't kill you to talk to people, well most. you have to psych yourself into it. you can do it! you can even reward yourself for small accomplishments until it becomes natural. good luck!

Answer 2

I have that problem, I am 15 and the more I get older the easier it gets. Just thik about it in the way that everyone talks and asks things and sometimes say stupid things, and noone really cares, and they will think better of you if you actually toalk. First just try to talk to a few people that you dont know well, but feel slightly comfortable around, then as your confidence builds, it will be easier and easier to talk to new people.

Answer 3

i used to be shy... well still am sometimes...
whenever there would be parties i would be the quiet one..
sometimes when people have a conversation i have something smart to say... but never say anything and let the other person take credit...

but i have been overvoming it by adapting that nike slogan... "just do it"... dont something unexpect cause ppl will think u are weird...

the BEST way to help u overcome it is by greeting people.. like when u are at target or supermarket and cashiers say hello or something.. just reply "hi, how are u today".. then a lil convo can happn.. be more social.. good luck.

Answer 4

First thing to do is give a friendly look. Then say HI to the person/s. then you ask their name. then start talking to them, ask them questions. tell them about you.And always say good bye with a " I guess I'll see you later," that may help. I mean you are a girl right, its always easy to talk to people when you are a girl. Take the courege you took to ask this question. Good luck girl.

Answer 5

I used to be very shy when I was younger. I overcame my shyness by becoming friends with a couple of pretty outgoing people who introduced me to their other friends and who talked me into going to parties, church and other social events more. I was uncomfortable at first, but gradually I found that I liked going to these events and meeting new people. I think the key to it was that my friend was willing to start out with doing small group and one on one type stuff with me first like playing tennis or going golfing and gradually got me to go to bigger and bigger things more often. That way I got to know them well first and to trust them before they got me to get out into bigger social circles. A really good way to meet people and gradually get to be more social is to join a church and meet people there. In most churches, there are at least a few caring people who will notice that you are alone and will befriend you. You can gradually get more involved in the church by attending a few dinners and other social events they have. Before you know it, you'll know and be known by a lot of the people in the church who will chat with you and who knows, maybe even become friends with you. Churches are great because you don't have to pay dues to become a member and most of the events they have are free.

If you are on the computer a lot, and enjoy playing games, another great way to meet people is to take your computer to LAN parties. Anymore, most medium to large sized towns have at least one LAN club. You can find a lot of them by searching for their web site online. Just type in something like LAN parties and then the town you live in or the nearest larger town. At LAN parties you get to meet other gamers in person, play team based games with them and sometimes even win prizes. There is lot of good comradrie in a good LAN club. Sometimes, they charge a fee to play but it usually isnt more than $10 or so to cover the cost of getting the room they meet in and the cost of the prizes.

Those are a couple of the ways I got to be more of a social person myself.

If you need or want to ask a question, the best thing I have found to do is not worry about what others around you might think of you for asking. You'd be surprised how many other people are thinking the same question you are but are too afraid to ask it themselves. If it's in a class, just think about how getting the answer to your question might help you make better grades in the class since you won't miss that question or concept on the next test or assignment. If its in a job, you will likely do better at whatever it is you are working on if you understand how to do it better and therefore possibly get promoted later on.

Answer 6

I used to be shy too, i got over my shyness by realizing what i was shy about, in my case it was acting or saying something stupid. So i thought about what i was going to ask or say before i said it and my shyness eventually wore off.

Answer 7

Don't overcome it like it is a curse. I am very shy, and I like it that way. It's fine.

Make sure you are comfortable with your shyness before you try to do any changing.

Answer 8

I was shy at one point, now I'm incredibly loud and outspoken.
It's hard at first, but you'll blend into the crowd of nothingness if you don't, so hurry up!

Answer 9

join a support group

Answer 10

by just geting over it!!!!you dont seem to shy!your on here writing to everyone ,asking all kinds of questions.....