ok this is about a life long thing. i began having lifelike nightmares when i was about 9 i think. almost every night that i was able to sleep to the deep part of sleep. they began as very fearful dreams about my friends at school pushing me back down a hill or steps i had just faught my way up. and have in my adult years turned to my husband cheating on me. i dont know if i would call them reacuring dreams because they are not the exact same dream every time but they are the same senario every time. they have even had sequals !!! i wake up and i remember having the first part of the dream preveosly. when i wake up they feel as if they had actually just happened and i have even woke up and slugged my husband for cheating on me. when he has never givin me any reason to think he has. (consaquently i think that the reason i think he will cheat on me is because i have never in my life known of a single male who didnt cheat. Never.) Should i talk to a doctor about this??
2006-06-26 17:56:44 · 10 answers · asked by naightengale 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have tryed a dreamcatcher when i was yonger but it didnt work. When i whent to a shrink he was more wanting to know if i wanted to kill myself than if i had nightmares. should i go directly to a sleep pathologist??
2006-06-26 18:08:19 · update #1
Yes i these dreams effect my daytime hours i often go all day fearing what happend in my dream. I have also with out relizing it started staying up late at night as to not reach the part of sleep where these dreams happen. When i realized i was doing this is when i deside it must actually be a problem. I realised it when i went to bed early the other day and woke up in total fear of my husband cheating on me/ leaving me. He is very supportive of me i can shake him awake and tell him what happened and he will hug me up and tell me how much he loves me and that i dont have to worry. but i still have these dreams when ever i sleep that deep.
2006-06-26 18:19:39 · update #2
It seems to me that you may have an unconscious form of anxiety. Do you have that when you are awake? I would go and talk to a doctor about this. I dont know how common this is, but I have had something along those lines too... For a while all my dreams were nightmares. There may be some stuff you have bottled up inside that are starting to sneek out somehow and are effecting you in your dreams rather than when you are awake. I am not a professional, but this isn't anything I would worry about, but you may want to see a doctor about this and just see what they think. You may need to change your life style a bit, is it hectic? Try relaxing, going to bed early, not eating too late, did you know if you eat right b4 you go to bed, it causes nightmares? I dont know how true that is, but I do know that the food doesnt always get digested properly. You may just need to change some habbits in life and relax more so if you do not already. But going to the doctor for some answers wont hurt you if you can. Good Luck! P.S. I would explain to your husband when necessary if he asks, be open with each other, communication is key, and you dont want things to get mis-understood. I hope this helps you!
2006-06-26 18:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by RockerChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. You definitely have issues. Have you ever lived independently? You need mental strengthening. Take on a hobby that makes you feel impowered. Try writing, get a book published or something. Anything that makes you feel assertive. Your self doubt could be the very thing that causes your worst nightmares to come true so take action. But remember that you don't need anyone to confirm to you that you are who you are and that should be good enough for you. And if it's not good enough for the next person, then to hell with them as long as you're happy. I'll give you an example. Last night I had a fight with a girl who wouldn't go see Superman with me. I broke up with her because of it. Why? Not because I'm a jerk. But because I'm not a jerk! Superman is what I wanted to see. And I wanted her company, and she said no. You don't tell me no. If you do... out you go. You need to make sure you're living your life and not someone elses. Good luck.
2006-06-27 01:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason you are insecure in your life or fear that your life will take a turn for the worse(when you were young were there some situations that caused deep hurt to you?Maybe that you may not even realize?)-- try getting in a pattern of watching a feel-good movie before you go to bed at night and your mind will be occupied with a fresh thought that is positive instead of negative also doing some things nice for others always makes you feel good about yourself and can make a subconscious change for the better(many times we look at ourselves in the mirror but still dont see what others are capable of seeing because we are numb to ourselves) Im 2 years divorced and my wife cheated on me with my neighbor and is now married to him raising his kids in my new house we had just built & spent years saving for-so it goes both ways believe me.
2006-06-27 01:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by RacerXXX S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider having a sleep study.
Vivid dreams usually occur in a certain period of sleep and they often stay with you all day after. Maybe you are not getting enough of one stage of sleep. A sleep study would show that.
Also, maybe you had something that happened to you as a child that caused this fear of rejection and the paranoia.
If the sleep study shows nothing, then I would definitely see a counselor about the nightmares. They eventually affect your waking hours and your mood too.You deserve a restful and refreshing sleep.
Godd luck to you!
2006-06-27 01:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've got good news and bad news. 1st you are not having "night terrors".Good news. Repetitive dreams happen when you are in the deepest state of sleep "R E M sleep". REM means Rapid Eye Movement. This is very disturbing and could lead to other problems.Go see a psychotherapist and he will prescribe what you need. I have to take Trazadone for the same problem. Good Luck Prezzle
2006-06-27 01:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is the same problem, I pray and meditate before going to bed, still it does'nt help. I think our minds are too creative, and there are many deep desires and fears that v cant tell everyone, only v ourselves can understand.
These desires and fear take form in our sub concious.
Best way is councel urself,
Think why u have to dream that ur husband is cheating on u.
Start trusting urself, ur hubby and ur surroundings.
And remember to say a goodnite prayer.
And let me tell you not everyone has such vivid imaginations like us.
2006-06-27 06:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you read Sylvia Brown's Book of Dreams, it would help you alot. You can look it up at Amazon or even better you can get a copy from Ebay, pretty cheap. Good luck.
2006-06-27 01:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Catfishchic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help
2006-06-27 01:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Bo Darville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang up a dream chacher i did and i have not have any nightmares for at least a10 years
2006-06-27 01:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by ndnpride_411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should go to a shrink
2006-06-27 01:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Yumi M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋