I have been with a guy Zack for a year and a half. He has a 2 year old son who I love like he's my own. But Zack doesnt make me happy anymore. I love him, but the flame isnt there anymore I dont think. I met this kid Mike, I have never wanted to be with anyone more in my life. He is everything I have ever wanted. This should be easy, I feel like the answer is obvisouly Mike... but then why is it so hard to let go of Zack? And which love is the one I stick with... Or should I just run away?
2006-06-26 17:22:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either. You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
2006-06-26 17:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As always, I never pity those who say they're in love with two people at once. It's a cruelty that has effected me a number of times. However, from what little I know I can gather two theories:
1.) You still have feelings for Zack but repetitiveness is possibly turning you off to him. That's where Mike comes in. He's someone new, he offers something else and you're attracted to that. You always want what you don't have.
2.) Zack was a good man for a while and he satisfied you easilly enough. He was the best you had for the time. But now Mike comes along and brings a lot more to the table. Something more. You're afraid to leave Zack cause you've been with him for so long and may have slept with him causing increased comfort in being with him. The possibility of change may not settle well and you may feel guilty leaving the son.
Again it's hard to say. You could always run away but then you'd never really know what worked. It's going to be a terribly rough decision regardless of what you decide. But my guess is if you stay with Zack the desire for Mike may consume you, depending on your will power which may cause you to cheat on Zack. At the very least it will nag at you. Figure out why you like both of these men and then evaluate your situation and make sure the reasons you choose one of the other is justified.
2006-06-27 00:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Corey C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the spark just isnt there any more then it is time to move on, especially if you met a guy that has everything that you want. Its hard for you to leave Your boyfriend because you guys have been together for a long time and you went through alot together and sometimes it is hard to let that go, even if it is for the best. You need to make yourself happy and it seems like Mike will do that for you, so move on.
2006-06-27 00:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with Zack about how you feel. he deserve
that after a year and half don't you think? especially since his son
is so important you. as they say the grass is not all way so green
on the other side. But he needs to know the truth.
2006-06-27 00:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well well....... I just had a relationship with 2guys... same with you it was hard to let go with the OLD guy so I did run away, after a week, the NEW guy who I loved to be with seemed no longer interested but the OLD guy kept on calling and asking for chances, I believe it is the true love that I've been waiting for and I don't wanna let go of it.... I wanna give another try and lit a genuine FIRE,hehehe..... It worked, I was able to realize who really loved me after 2weeks only, that stupid NEW guy, I wanna kick his a_s......
2006-06-27 00:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by luvtoinkzzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you really don't want zack and if you don't, move on with mike.
2006-06-27 00:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if zack cant make u happy anymore then i think u should go with the other guy if you think he can remain faithful to you and maybe you can have your own kid together
2006-06-27 00:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by HLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have an answer. Why run away if Mike is everything you ever wanted. HUH.
2006-06-27 00:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know just make yourself happy, it's probably harder cause of the little boy, but you have to be happy. But make sure your positve about this new one cause zack may not be too keen to take you back after you leave him and his son for another.
2006-06-27 00:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly recommend you go to a counselor to figure out this issue. They are great at helping you figure out for yourself what is better for you in your life. That means that they help you figure out what is the best decision (they don't decide for you).
2006-06-27 00:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by sgeorges13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋