I have a hard time finding girls to like me. I think it is because I am weird. I am a conservative Christian - yet I am artistically liberal. I like musicals, ballet, and classical music. I wright for concert bands and orchestras. I will be attending the University of Texas at Austin next fall (majoring in Mathematics) - a primarily democratic school, when I am a not. I enjoy poetry, philosophy, liberal arts, and fine arts. The moment I explain my likes and talents to a Christian girl, she is completely scared of me and runs away. When I actually attract a liberal girl, she is disgusted once she gets to know my religious beliefs. (Actually I have problems making friends in general.) Is there anyone out there for me, or am I just an isolated intellectual that will never find the love of my life?
2006-06-26 17:14:05 · 14 answers · asked by classical_maniac101 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
god made u smart for a reason .......... fill your brain with knowledge , and let him worry about your mate ....... he will give you the one when it is his time ......... leave it in god's hand sweety !!! and dont be in such a rush ....... you have th erest of your life
2006-06-26 17:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by NorthFLgurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say you need some tweaking here. You can't be an intellectual and a conservative. Nothing good has ever come out of being a conservative that you enjoy.
Nothing in music has ever progressed by taking a conservative approach. Think of all the great composers in history, each of them broke the mold. A conservative doesn't do this or enjoy those things. A conservative tells people they put "too many notes" into brilliant piece of music.
Every development in math has come from taking on a new approach, not by being a conservative.
If you truly are an intellectual, you will realize that all the religions are a man-made concept to explain things that couldn't be explained yet in science. Religion was also created to control the population. Many years ago, the church was the most powerful, not the government as we see now in modern times. As an intellectual, you should understand that the real benefits from all religion are their core concepts of good which have been incorporated into our laws. As an intellectual, you should appreciate that people have progressed past the need for religion to be so important in our lives.
Based on what you have said, you are an intellectual and liberal. Girls have a problem with how you present yourself now because you are conflicted. It would be like a black person being a member of the KKK, this is a conflicted person. Once you have come to this understanding about yourself, you are going to be much more successful with girls and people in general.
2006-06-26 17:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the "liberal" girls you've been meeting aren't really "liberal" at all. If you're as open minded as you describe yourself, there is no reason a liberal girl wouldn't want to get to know you better. I could understand why many christians would run. No offense, but christians are often scared of what they haven't experienced. You'll meet her once you get through the phonies. Oh, and weird is good. Someone will appreciate that in you. Be patient, it will happen. Everything will be different in college too.
2006-06-26 17:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably a diamond in the ruff. A mother's dream for her daughter or just very clever. Maybe you should ask a girl out with out turning it into an interview for your career. You sound like a great person that people will love. But your not letting them see you. Only your resume comes shining through. Ask a girl out and just have fun. Don't plan your entire life and relationship in one sitting. Use some of that poetry you love. Any normal girl will like that. Nothing intellectual, go for how you feel about her. have fun. Enjoy your freedom. Your gonna gt a good job and drive a nice car. They will be jumping all over you in a few years.
2006-06-26 17:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try finding out about the other person and show an interest in them instead of laying all of your cards out on the table.
get out more and practice just being someone who likes people and find joy in their company .The real character of a man is not in what he does but in how he treats and loves others. People will see you for who you are then your gifts can be unfolded one by one. Maybe you'd like to go bowling or swimming, or some joint activity. Even isolated intellectuals who are on a pity party like yourself (Christian or not) at some point realizes that love and kindness conquers all.
2006-06-26 17:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by cheryl w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very Conservative christian and I don't have a problem with any of your artistic talents. Maybe you have just been around the wrong type. As long as what you do is pleasing to God then you shouldn't have any trouble finding the right kind of christian girl who loves you for all of what you can offer.
2006-06-26 17:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to allow ourselves to be open with other people. My advice is to join clubs when you get to college. They have clubs for Christianity, music, art, etc. If they don't have a club that interests you find out how to start one. Remember that the more confidence you project the more confident people are around you. If you believe in yourself so will others. Don't take other peoples opinions of you seriously. You will find someone very special and she will share your interests and religious beliefs. Hang in there and have faith that god has a plan for you.
2006-06-26 17:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by LyndeKC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okays...
1. Try not to force your beliefs on anyone. Most people hate that.
2. Don't find friends/girlfriends who like everything that you do (talk about boring). If you have a friend per intrest, that's easier because it's a starting point.
3. Coworkers? Mine are nice, as have my past ones were, also.
It's easier to befriend people that you're already kinda close to. Try letting fate play it out, maybe?
2006-06-26 17:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Licorice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is someone out there for you. You sound like a very intelligent person. Most people would be intimidate by. Maybe here in the states you'll find the right mate. Good luck hun
2006-06-26 17:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for anyone to fall in love or to meet nice people. Just put yourself out there and try to meet as many people as you can anywhere you go. The more people you meet, the more luck you will have finding friends and dates. Be open to new possibilites and be yourself - you can't really be anyone else, now can you?
2006-06-26 17:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all kinds of people at college. Im sure you'll find someone. Join some clubs that interest you. Wait until you've gone out with the girl and even better....wait until you get the feeling she likes you...BEFORE you delve into telling her your beliefs. etc..
2006-06-26 17:20:11 · answer #11 · answered by melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋