i cant commit and i dont know why
intelligent responses please?
2006-06-26 17:05:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the same problem. But at least I have an idea why. I don't trust anymore! Oh and I wish it would go away! I don't hate any of my ex-boyfriends, I don't miss any of them or want any of them back. I am not hurt at all at the moment. But the seed is sown... Don't trust them!!!
Perhaps you have the same problem?
I must add, I also enjoy the freedom, but I do miss the company from time to time. So, I would love to give up my freedom just to have that someone special in my life. But I just can't get myself so far, because I don't trust.
Oh and one more thing, doesn't the idea of getting settled sound so final? If only we could get that creepy feeling out of our systems, we might be halway there!
2006-06-26 17:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbeam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very complicated question with no real simple answer. There could be a variety of underlying reasons why a person does not commit. A couple I can think of off hand is - 1) Fear 2) Doesn't want a commitment - just the fun or a relationship but not marriage, etc. 3) Not ready for a relationship.
A commitment is not something to take lightly. One has to be ready. Are there past relationship snags that are holding you back? Is it fear? In order to move forward one must let go of the past. You can't change it but one must learn from it.
Not sure if this helps, but it's the best I can do not knowing your history etc.
2006-06-27 00:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 26 and do not have a good education, or at least a job that pays plenty, then you would be a fool to be considering any kind of commitment with anyone. It seems to me that you like much attention but you don't like to give any. Perhaps you simply have not met the right person for you and are just being honest about it. My grandmother used to say that it is better to be alone than with bad company. I believe that this is very true. You may also consider your background. If you come from a broken home, then you are affraid of having a bad experience of your own. Finally, let me just say that when love comes knocking at your door, you would be wise to open up or you will regret it for the rest of your life. Above all, put it all on the scale of wholesomeness. Money, mental maturity, and getting along are key. Love takes work to last for a lifetime. Don't commit unless you mean it, and don't expect what you are not willing to deliver.
Sincerely,
Mr. M on relationships.
2006-06-27 00:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're unsure of who you are, that would be a big factor in not being ready for a relationship. Immaturity is another reason. Fear of rejection or getting hurt would be another. The list is really endless if you think about it long enough.
2006-06-27 00:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear and questions that you'll keep asking yourself. Is he really the right one, or is there someone better for me out there? I'm I really really to settle down? Do I want to change my lifestyle in order to settle down? Maybe your just not ready for it yet, but if you've found a good guy that makes and keeps you happy then you might want to think about a commitment, good guys are hard to find.
2006-06-27 00:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by lostandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have trouble trusting people or something in your past is not allowing you to commit. Review your life and see if there's something that happened that's causing your commitment issue. I hope this helps!!! Good Luck with everything.
2006-06-27 00:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? That will make a difference. If you have been hurt before is another reason. And maybe all you have been around were bad relationships. (yours, parents, friends, etc...) this all makes a difference in how you think.
2006-06-27 00:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,sometimes the reason that people can't commit is because of past relationships that went really bad.or it could be that he or she was abused by thier mate that they were with at the time and their scared that someone else will hurt them the same way or worse!
2006-06-27 00:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by dark_gypsy32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person is ready to commit to the relationship wen they trust the other person enough to know that they're never going to leave ur side no matter wat happens and i think u're either scared to trust a person or the persons u've been in relationship before are not trustworthy...just remember that the base to a perfect relationship is TRUST and being comfotable around them and if they're not present in ur relationship, try to see the positive sides and if not, move on....u'll find the right person sumday..
2006-06-27 00:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by teddybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad past experiences, personal issues, scared to commit, maybe they want to be completely sure that the next person is the right one.
2006-06-27 00:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by b_sampson98055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋