you see they both know about eachother and don't really show me that it bothers them. I am not sleep with either of them and have been with both of them for about 2 years. We switch holidays and it seems like everythings ok.
2006-06-26 17:05:13 · 8 answers · asked by laurlaur 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well the first thing is do you ever want to be intimate with them and if so you need to sit down with both of them at the same time and talk things thru. I am currently in a very wonderful marriage but i am bi and my husband knew i was before we got together and is comfortable with my having a girlfriend. now don't get me wrong he has nothing to do with my girlfriends ever. they are two independent relationships my old girlfriend even lived with us for a while. So i think if the two guys both love you and you love both of them so be it if they don't care that you love two people it just shows how much they want you to be happy and how far they will go to make sure you are happy. rejoice in your fortune!! having Two loves just means that you get twice the gifts!! lol relax and have a chat with both of them.
2006-06-26 18:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by naightengale 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Even if they don't show you that it bothers them I'm sure that they don't like it. It's not fair to keep both of them on the string. It's not fair to yourself and it's not fair to either of them. I'm sure that each of them would want you to themself but don't tell you for fear of losing you. We rarely say what we really mean for fear of what will happen. Think about this, what you're doing, and the consequences, now and down the line.
2006-06-26 17:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's not bothering them, why is it bothering you? and if you aren't sleeping with either, it isn't like you're committed to either of them (I am NOT trying to be sarcastic in any way but I think you may be puzzled why they each aren't jealous) Jealousy is not healthy for them or you and if you're seeking one or both to exhibit jealousy in order for either to SHOW his committment to you, I think you may be looking for the wrong quality in either of them.
jealousy is just one short of control- and you DON'T want that----so look at yourself and your motives-don't play one against another and feel 'less than' if they aren't worried about the other person in your life- It makes more sense to me for you to look at what you want long-term and how they each would fit into that picture.
2006-06-26 17:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by aspire2bbonkers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serious problems will come around sooner or later, they will never always feel that way. Especially if you get sexual with them. Your just begging for trouble with that relationship
2006-06-26 17:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can make an open relationship work--more power to you. In my experience somone always gets hurt
2006-06-26 23:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by mjfluffypuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre selling yourself short, choose the one that stands out above the others
2006-06-26 17:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by KelBean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like neither one cares that much about you. If they did they wouldn't be able to share you.
2006-06-26 17:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no rules in love. But, if they don't care that you love they other, do they really care about you?
Do you really want to be with somebody who doesn't care about you?
2006-06-26 17:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by libertino85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋