5 years together but no more spark...can we fix this???

Question

My boyfriend of 5 years and I are always bitching at each other. it doesnt seem like either one is happy. all we do is sit around and smoke pot and watch TV.

Answer 1

hmmm.......... i have been giving suggestion in this regard to a lot of people and i guess they liked it also...
the problem here is there is a monotonous life schedule which is going on..... you have a routine life and people do get bored out of their routine life.....
one thing i would suggest is stop bitching about each other.... this is the worst thing to do in a relationship.... ater all this, you two are together for 5 years means that there is something which is still there which is binding you two.... it can love, it can be lust......
do these to spice up your life.....
1. give him a surprise party..... without any occasion
2. always be a pleasant surprise for him.... keep him guessing what will be your next move... that will interest him...
3. Perform a striptease in front of him... totally unexpected...
4. for once, dont ***** back..... arguments leads to arguments......
even though he does, you have to keep your calm, and try to love him, even though he might be busy bitching..... put your arm around him and kiss him on his lips.... the words come out.....
5. don't hear whatever he says, when he is bitching.......
6. give your love to him...... it can bind/heal/patch almost any kind of relationship.... it can cure the bitterness between you two......
take care and good luck girl

Answer 2

Well you could quit doing pot, but it seems you two are in a rut, and it's not going to get better, until boh of you admit and do something drastic.
Leave the television off, start talkling to each other, make plans for a weekend getaway. Role play, use our imaginations, have fun again. You aren't having fun now. If it doesnt change soon, it would be best to call it quits, and find someone else.

Answer 3

Why dont you try doing things together like go out to eat or go see a movie, basically go out on dates like you did when the two of you got together. Try different sex positions and try playing sex games, turn regular board games into sexy games. For example when someone looses that person has to take of a piece of clothing or they ge to request something that they want the other person to do sexually.

Answer 4

Separate for awhile, sometimes that helps bring a new spark to a relationship. You may even consider mutually dating someone else, this may show the things you miss in one another or possibly show what you are not getting.

Answer 5

Smoking pot is not the way to go to fix anything far less a relationship!!!

Answer 6

That's what you call a dead end relationship. Free your mind and your rear-end will follow honey, and the first step is to step out. Make a clean break, and start over as this sounds like nowheresville. Sorry, but I call them as I see them.

Answer 7

Hi ,M e and my friend was together for 9yrs .He always want things to go his way,I'm trying to fix things but it isn't working.If u don't think it will last find someone else because u only leave once

Answer 8

Stop what you are doing 'cold turkey' and do something else. Commit to it an you will be alright. Just remember to spend time together and remember 'why' you are together. Good Luck.

Answer 9

try something new be open minded go out doors get crazy act like u first did when u were together enjoy new adventures

Answer 10

Quit doing drugs, start getting out, and start moving forward in life. Start jogging or working out and see what happens.