Well me and my boyfriend just got back together and sometimes i feel as though when he says he only wants me and im his only real love. I sometimes dont feel that way. my boyfriend has alot more girls as friends than guys because he can listen and give comfort to girls when they need help and stuff. He really never flirts but when he hangs around the other girls he seems like he wouldnt mind being with them because im like always never in the picture he like leaves me in the group of friends that we are around and i dont even know anyone to talk to then he gets mad when i wonna take a couple of laps around town while he talks to people....im so confused because he seems like im sometimes never there and then suddenly he cares. i even feel like used sometimes. and im always jelous because i droped like all my guy friends to make sure eric never thought id cheat on him but i have to put up with the fact he has lots of girls as friend i seriously dont know what to do...can you guys help?
2006-06-26 16:52:56 · 8 answers · asked by dangerous_angel_gurl1116 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey girlie,
u believe in love?? u trust ur boyfriend??? b'coz if u do, stop being jealous coz of other girls...first off, u dont have to drop ur other guy frends coz they r a part of ur life too and u dont have to give up anything or change anything about yourself if u really think u love someone..... have a talk with ur boyfriend and xplain him wat u xplained us(if u can xplain sum stranger abt how u are feeling, he's ur BOYFRIEND and u should be even more comfortable about xpressing ur feelings)...and remember that frends mean so much to a person as a lover would mean...and about u being used, i dont think so; if u were being used, u wouldnt get those feelings of commitment sometimes...wen u say u feel like ure his only love, trust that feeling...the more u worry about others, the worse its gonna become...u really want a solution for this?? go have a talk wid ur boyfriend and iam sure everything will be alright....
remember that wen u love someone, u should learn to TRUST them...
2006-06-26 17:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by teddybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... first of all, you and your boyfriend obviously are together for a reason. He has all these other girls that he is friends with.. but you are his girlfriend. you shouldnt have dropped all of your guys friends just to make him trust you. Thats crap. Thats one of the most important aspects of a relationship: trust. If you cant trust eachother then you have no business being together. You should sit him down and have a serious talk with him and tell him exactly how you feel. You arent going to get any answers to saving your relationship here.. the only way you are going to insure that this relationship is stable and worth staying is by talking to the other half.
2006-06-27 00:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't sound like he's cheating on you, but it also doesn't sound like he's being at all the kind of boyfriend that you want. If you talk to him about it and nothing changes (or changes for a little while and then goes right back to how it is now), find someone new. Find the guy that doesn't want to leave your side and will show that to you all the time. Find the kind of guy that YOU want.
2006-06-26 23:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your guy that you dont like the fact that he has alot of friends that are girls. My opinion is when two people are together then the only people of the opposite sex that they should talk to is family, thats it. Tell him that if he cant change this for you then you are just gonna have to move on to a guy that will respect your relationship and treat you better.
2006-06-26 23:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up for a reason, but you didn't give us that information. It doesn't sound too good, and it sounds as if you are with the wrong guy. You sound young, and you will have many more relationships before the right guy comes along, and you will know, as he will always put your needs first, and be your best friend as well. Good Luck Sugar, and take it easy.
2006-06-26 23:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes both ways. My boyfriend is very girl-centric, and I would never keep him from his friends.
You need to have enough confidence and trust him. If you believe what he's saying, he could spend the night at another girl's house and KNOW he wouldn't cheat on you.
You've got trust issues and need to figure out if they're there for a legitimate reason.
2006-06-26 23:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am the same way as him in the fact that i have lots of friends that r girls but very few guy firends and i give good adivce (so i am told). i will tell u i would never cheat but each guy is a little differant. ope it works out for ya.
2006-06-26 23:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by jcspuddin2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ur confused, take it very slow, time is on ur side
2006-06-26 23:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by revtraveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋