Is it wrong to want a boyfriend at the age of 13?

Question

I want a boyfriend, since I'm in high school earlier than i should most of my friends already have one. Nothing serious like sex because I believe in God and abstinence. But I just want a boyfriend? And alot boys do like me

what does "prey" mean cause people keep saying it.

Answer 1

"Prey" is an animal that gets hunted...so in this instance it would be a girl who is treated like she's being hunted and chosen because she might not know any better. Guys should respect you and really care about you, but some guys take a while to learn this and some never do.

It's okay to want a boyfriend. It may be wiser to wait til you're a little older...but if you don't it's important to find a guy who will respect you and not pressure you. It's a lot easier for a couple to abstain from sex if they both think they need to...keep that in mind.

Answer 2

I am not sure what you mean by the term boyfriend. Do you mean a guy with the same interests as you to talk with? One who thinks of you as a sister and you only think of him as a brother, like you would have at age 6 or 7? It would be OK if you could both keep your feelings from getting wrapped up in each other, which is going to be hard at your age. This is the very problem with boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.One or both will put more meaning into the relationship than it really has. then if/when you break up, there are hurt feelings. How many times would you like to have your heart broken?If you are planning to wait until marriage, then it will be at least until age 20 until this can happen. It is going to be impossible to keep up this relationship for 7 years without the two of you getting either impatient or tired of each other.My advice, do not date until your are 18 and ready to get married. I do not want any broken hearts.

Answer 3

If you think you are ready for a commitment, mature to handle emotional stress, and you are certain that you have enough willpower to say no to sex, then it should be ok.

If you have a no answer to any of the 3, then I say it would be best if you allow yourself to grow up a bit. In the meantime you concentrate on your studies and during weekends you can go out and have fun with friends - whether boys or girls. Once you're ready then you can have a bf.

Remember, you are at a tender age now and you are an easy prey for the rest of the boys in high school.

Answer 4

Nope. At least you get to experiene the highs and lows of a relationship in your early years. It makes good practice. However, a word of caution. Having a relationship does not mean your life would revolve around that. Remember, you're still young, and there's still life out there. Always remember you're priorities, especially in your studies. And most of all, be sure to get a boy that actually believes in abstinence, cause there's a lot of older boys out there just wanting to score. No offence, but that's a fact of life in highschools, American or otherwise. Get a boy with the same beliefs and principles as you; this way you won't regret your choice.

Answer 5

I had a Girl Friend when I was like 8 years old. Actually had my First Kiss. We really not do anything, but, did get some kisses. Heck, we not know much then, never even went anywhere, it more like a just at school thing. When I was 13 well, I not go there, but I got better kisses and we did do things, like movies or a Coke/Candy Bar at the local 7-11 store. Once I even splurged for an Icee!!!! ;-)

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with having a guy to hang out with and hold hands and all that other cute stuff. The only thing about dating at 13, especially if you date a guy who is older in high school, you need to be careful not to feel pressured into doing more than you are ready for emotionally.

Answer 7

I think it's perfectly normal to want a boyfriend, but honey you don't NEED one. You sound like a very smart girl. Stick to what's really important to you and not what's important to other people. If you get one, that's probably OK. Be aware of temptation though and other pressures. Lots of high school boys will prolly want to have sex. Be wise. It won't hurt if you wait. Good luck Sweetheart.

Answer 8

I think u need to grow up a bit at least 16 or 17...agreed that u dont mean u want to have a boyfriend for sex but what about ur boyfriend..he may want to have a girl friend for sex right??

Answer 9

It is not wrong to want anything at age thirteen. But may not be necessarily appropriate at your age or even necessary. And so who cares what others have. Others do not dictate what you should have or need. They are not always a good example. So consider the fact that everything you see others do does not make it right for you to be as they are. You see I might like to have a wife but I do not want or need a wife to be happy nor emulate others as to be socially accepted. Be smart and don't be in a hurry, you have a lot of growing to do and wisdom to absorb.

Answer 10

I had several "boyfriends" when I was 14..and they tried pressuring me into doing stuff,but i never did...watch out guys will pressure you....i may just play the field and STAY SINGLE
My hubby and I dated 3 years and have been married 3 and I wish I had have dated around and not got serious about one guy...

stay single

Answer 11

There is no guilt if you want a boy to take care of you. But be careful if you don't really know what love is.
See the boys around you and try to answer yourself who do you like most. Compare things which you like in him (except his appearance) . Can they become love or not. If the answer is "yes"... You know what to do!