how do you heal a broken heart that refuses to fix?

Question

evrytime i let my self get close to someone i alsways get hurt and back down, i know im not gay cause lately i hate the world, mainly my self. i try to blame something else but it comes around and hits me in the face thats its me. and i break down. right now i have a 100 foot wall around my heart, and its unbreakable. i hate seeing people hurt cause i... well feel nothing, my love life is gone, and i do want to like someone, or die, latly the only thing on my mind is death,

Answer 1

well its not easy but u will have to come to the realization that its over,...and only then can u begin to heal ur heart... its never easy but its true...u might thing its the end of the world right now but its not...theres sooooo many others out there in same vote as u so dont feel alone and dont feel like ur gunna die of this sadness....u will find some one else and this will all seem so different to u in the future....:)

Answer 2

What I did was I pulled everyone I loved close to me, and asked for support


you know, I was going through the same thing

and Im going to share that with you today

tommorow it will have been a year

so once upon a time a 14 year old fell head over heels for a sixteen year old boy who felt the same way


for six amazing days they were everything but together-the thing was they liked each other but they were to scared to tell each other how the other felt

then the boy left and the girl was devastated-the program they went to ended.

So she waited for him to talk to her and he did

they missed each other and were getting close until someone else stepped into the picture

she was older way prettier and had an easier time seeing this boy.

They made out in a car, which made the poor 14 year old girl sad for a long time.

If another guy tried to TOUCH her, she would jump back, yell dont or push him away-literally.

She pushed away the people she loved to follow thew one she loved, but her attempts were in vain.

She still feels hurt but happy when she looks at his picture.

Their one year anniversary is tommorow

she wrote to him tonight

and her only question is....

will he write back? GOD I hope so.......

Answer 3

The heart is a really fragile thing. The only thing you can do is to wait. Time can do wonder, you know, though it sounds cliche. It may never heal and there may be scars. But those are scars that remind you of the choices that you make in life. Those are the scars that make you make the right decision in the near future.

I wish you all the best.

With lotsa love,
Matt.

Answer 4

Sweetie, you are severely depressed. With all the disappointments that have happened to you I can understand why. I used to be just like you, I was tired of getting hurt too, nothing I did ever came out right. I went to a Dr. and he prescribed anti-depressants and it has changed my life completely, I also go to see a therapist once a week. I used to think people who were on anti-depressants were psychos, but "we" aren't, we are just people who need help and got tired of hurting and decided to change our life. Your life CAN get better...IF you want it to. Suicide is NEVER the answer. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Get the help you need, get the help you deserve. Things will only get better if you want them to. I wish you SO MUCH luck. Life can be good, give it a chance sweetie. Take care.

Answer 5

Destiny is a pretty miraculous thing...but only if you are patient. Honey, my life has been crap for the past two years, but I was blessed with a beautiful son. Please promise us that you won't do harm to yourself. You are put on this planet for a reason, whether you know that reason or not. A good friend once said that whenever something bad happens to us or we aren't sure about why you are here, just believe that you are not here for just yourself, but to help someone else with your knowledge. Help others heal by talking about your pains. Passing on good advice is a blessing. Please be kind to your precious soul...write me if you like...just don't give up...your heart beats for a greater purpose. We all love you.

Answer 6

you are going to have to tear that wall down brick by brick - everyone gets hurt at one point or another in their life - yes it sucks - but that's a part of life and you need to learn from it - if you don't open yourself up to the idea of dating and maybe falling in love again - you are going to be one lonely person - you need to go out with friends and have a good time - and eventually a relationship will happen - sitting at home and sulking is not going to make things change or make things happen - you have to dust yourself off and get back up again - don't let relationships that have happened in your past - become a predictor of your future relationships - you future is in your hands - no one elses - so take some responsibility for whats happened and learn from the experience so you can make your future a brighter one - smile - it makes your face value go up ;0)

Answer 7

do not and i repeat DO NOT kill yourself. that is the worst ossible thing to do. i mean just relax. take time off. take a vacation or spend a day at home watching movies and eating ice cream. trust me u will feel better. i mean your heart will heal and that wall will break. i have the same problem but im getting over it. but it is a slow process. im starting to like someone and its making me feel better. i mean it will get better just give it time. and if u start to like someone dont rush into things to quickly because your heart could get seriously hurt by rushing into things right after u start liking someone. so relax and forget about it. it will fix itself eventually.

Answer 8

You know, I just want to tell you that I love you. That's all, I've been through so many things that you have been through, and I have survived. You will survive as well. May God richly bless your life. In Jesus name, your friend, UCSteve.

Answer 9

I know very well what is like to want to die, because I suffer from chronic depression. But the answer to your question is just one word: TIME. Time is the best healer, believe it or not. I know what is like to NOT believe it, but, trust me, just give it TIME, OK? *hugs*

Answer 10

first of all professinal help would be good. second of all talk to neone. talk to me i went through kindof the same thing. i am always happy to talk so drop me a line netime at [e-mail]