what would you do if the guy you've cherished and loved all your life backed out from your planned marriage bcoZ you both have different religions?coz in my case, he really left me and its drivin me insane!
2006-06-26 16:15:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
but im willing to let our children someday have their own choice...
2006-06-26 18:02:24 · update #1
Let me tell you from experience...
He did you a favor.
Being with someone that doesn't share your core beliefs makes marriage so much more difficult.
I know what I just said is difficult to accept however, if you are not equally yoked with your spouse...you are asking for problems.
Marriage is work; why add additional stress? If you decide to have children, in which religion would they be raised? How do you tell them they as their parents, you can't agree on your religion? How do they know which one is the right one; and if that is the right one, why don't you and their father agree on such an important subject?
I know it's hard to let him go...but it's the right thing to do.
2006-06-26 16:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a very spiritual person but I do think that the religion that you were raised with can be a big deal. It is absolutely necessary for a married couple to have core values that synchronize. Usually core values are developed around a persons religious affiliation. When you decide to spend the rest of your life (THE REST OF YOUR LIFE) with a person, raise children, and grow old, little nuances between your core values can be a very big deal.
That said, I don't think that you can generalize about religious differences and come to any conclusive opinion as to why your marriage wouldn't work. There are so many other things that could happen between married people that would make religious diferences seem petty.
In the future hopefully you will grow and marry someone else and see in yourself a person that wouldn't have married that guy in the first place.
2006-06-26 16:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Moose C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is very important in a marriage.
Before you marry, you should 110% agree on : Money, Children and Religion.
If you don't you are asking for much heartache and trouble.
Sorry- you should be glad he was man enough to realize it would be hard.
I married a Christian of a different denomination and it was VERY hard. We are married 21 years this week, but most couples would have walked away a long time ago.
2006-06-26 16:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God that he backed out now and didn't wait until after you were married. You're obviously better off without him. I wonder if this is just an excuse and he's had doubts about other things as well. Regardless, you will find a man who will appreciate everything about you. Look at this as an opportunity for a happier future.
2006-06-26 16:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing to ask was/is do you both love the Lord do you believe the same way...because the bible does say to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers..
It also sounds like you and him may have gotten to close to fast...if you know what i mean...and now he is backing out of the deal because he got what he wanted...correct me if i"m wrong...I would say be prepared to let go
2006-06-26 16:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by soldier612 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that religion yields insanity. It's sick when someone is willing to break their lover's heart because they refuse to cope with a difference of opinion and raising. If a christian was born in Iraq would he not be a muslim?
2006-06-26 16:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by asviles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did just leave you. The religion problems may have been there too, Let it go. Get over it. Stuff happens. He just was not that into you. I am sure that he liked you but love is a serious thing. There are a million more out there ,,,,,,,go get em!!!
2006-06-26 16:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to make these dicisions BEFORE you get married, be thankful in that.
And I would agree that if you aren't on the same spiritual understanding (religion), it's not going to work out for you two.
2006-06-26 16:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by unrealkrusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pay her a visit and give her a peice of my mind! that is so rude, and the person is very immature if he was ok with it, when he was not legally bound to you for the rest of his life, and now he doesnt now want to live with you?! he deserves to be beaten up or something serious, maybe you should just rant at him in front of everyone he knows, but if you do,make sure you have it all planned out, THOROUGHLY, planned stuff like that usually falls to crap for me
2006-06-26 16:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by babsa_90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult thing to handle since it must have hurt your feelings. Jesus loves you very much and we should love Jesus more than anyone or anything. Ask Jesus if it is His will to bless you with a loving Christian man.
2006-06-26 16:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by jamesdkral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋