My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I bought a book today that we fill out together answering questions about our lives together and before. One question asked..have you ever cheated on a past relationship. He said YES! I couldn't beleive it! I know I have asked that question before and he said no! What do I do?! It was only a kiss to this girl who is still his friend! Should I still trust him? He said he would never cheat on me because he loves me. I don't know what to think anymore.
2006-06-26 16:14:24 · 14 answers · asked by hawaiianrain69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax! Just because he did something in the past that was a mistake doesn't mean he is going to do it to you. He was honest with you and explained it to you - you don't have a reason to worry.
2006-06-26 16:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be affected by the past experiences he has made. He is being honest with you and that is what matters. Now, the girl whom he kissed is just a thing of the past, which you will soon get over with later on. It was probably one of those things where, "Oops, I'm very sorry I have done so, and I will not do it again." If he was really serious about kissing the girl and he seems to have less interest in you, then it's time to make the call. Otherwise, he said he would never do it again, so you've got to have faith in him and forgive him. He never said that he would date that girl or have interests in her. Don't worry, you two are still together and still love each other, which is a good thing.
2006-06-26 23:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill. It's not a big deal. You should be thankful that he was willing to fill out the book, good for both of you.
People do things, that's how they learn. Just relax. he's done nothing to you and even if he did, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you or care about you. people go through things in life and they don't always handle everything perfectly.
So relax and let it go. Let it go. It's no big deal in the grand scheme of things.
2006-06-26 23:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... calm down! slap yourself for over-reacting. now that you are calm, think about this in a rational manner.
Big fat hairy deal. so he kissed another girl in the past. Does that mean he is going to cheat on you, NO. Does it mean he won't cheat on you, NO. I has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!!
He is being honest about it. He probably didn't know you well enough before to be honest, now he is comfortable enough to tell you. Because he THINKS you are cool. Let it go, girly.
2006-06-26 23:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by MissCan'tBeWrong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont trust him. That could be YOU in another one of his "just a kiss" girl friends book next year! Dump him. He is not worth it. Find someone else that you never have doubts about!
2006-06-26 23:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by fairy_dust_xo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why you Never take those stupid test things in those books. Its ridiculous to know every little thing your partner has done before you. Just try to relax and let it go. Maybe he's grown up since then.
2006-06-26 23:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing can sometimes be a friendship thing.
CAUTION: When making judgement calls, be sure to leave your EGO out of it.
Thankyou,
The Peace Keepers
2006-06-26 23:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lied to you when you asked, now he writes it that he did. Hmmmmm tough one. Trust is something crucial in a relationship - without it, you may as well forget it. I personally could not trust him, and would move on. Good Luck to you.
2006-06-26 23:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself, he didn't sleep with her, he kissed her, and she was friend. It's not exactly the worse sin on the planet.
Cut him some slack, or he can easily return to some one, who is a lot less uptight than you, and more forgiving.
2006-06-26 23:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go with your gut feeling. i cheated on a girlfriend once and the guilt nearly drove me crazy.i have been married for twelve years now and would never dream of it. however,if i had never had that experience its possible i would not know better.maybe hes like me and learned his lesson.maybe not.always trust your gut.
2006-06-26 23:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by stranger in a strange land 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋