with my fiance, this is 4 hours from where I was origionally from, but the respetion halls are cheaper here and his uncle will marry us----is this ok? My cousins are tryign to talk me into having it where I was from origionally----but then I don't think his small family will make it----Help?
2006-06-26 16:14:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am in the same boat. Im 4 hrs away from my home town also and no one from my family lives up here, but I want it here and this is my day, so If you're family really cares about what makes you happy, I say go for it! I am.
2006-06-26 16:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, weddings were held in the bride's hometown because her parents hosted the wedding. Also, people moving hundreds or thousands of miles away is a relatively new thing - even 50 years ago it was uncommon for anyone, but especially a single woman, to move any distance away from her family. People also married at a younger age, which meant that it was much less likely for either the bride or the groom to already be settled and established at all, let alone far away from home.
These days, the only one of those things that really still plays into it is the bride's parents' hosting (and paying for) the wedding, and even that isn't as set in stone now. As couples are waiting until they are older and more established to get married, more and more couples are paying for and hosting their own weddings, or at least contributing. If your life is where you are now, and you don't have any major draw (like the church you grew up in, or a specific location) to get married in your hometown, then don't. It's your wedding, you should do what is best for you and your fiancee - and if his uncle is marrying you, that's a really special thing, because you'll have such a personal and specific ceremony. Do what makes you happy.
2006-06-27 12:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the rules on weddings change all of the time. If you are an adult and have lived elsewhere I don't see the problem you choosing where you want the wedding.
Some families turn a wedding into a battle groumd. Some brides are so busy pleasing everyone that they don't take care of themself. It starts a battle that might last for years. Your wedding is for you and your huband to be. If you start trying to make people happy you will probably be misserable. As long as you arn't doing something evil to hurt others- go ahead and make your plans the way you want them. If someone wants to tell you what to do just smile and nicely say something like this
"thanks for your suggestion, but we have already set up all of our plans" Then it might be good to ask that person a question to side track them. If they push you, then you just say something like
"thanks again, but our plans are set and we sure hope you can make it" If they push more you will have to put your foot down and say "I love you,and when you say these things I feel very uncomfortable, please respect my choices"
2006-06-26 23:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have your wedding where ever you want. My wedding is being held where my fiancee and I live now (Florida). He is from the east coast of the USA and I am from the west coast. Wherever is the easiest for you is where you shoudl have it. Don't let people talk you into anything you don't want to do for your wedding. Remember, the reason for a wedding is so you can get married, not to make everyone else in your life happy.
2006-06-27 11:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by c77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Ms. Princess. Traditionally, the wedding is held in the bride's hometown, but it certainly doesn't have to be. If circumstances would keep his family from being able to attend, then DEFINITELY have it in some centralized place. Also, I understand trying to save $ here and there. I was married in the pace where my husband and I met - our college town. It was easier on almost everybody, except my mother, who made many arrangements in a town she was not familiar with.
2006-06-26 23:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by cereslmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your wedding where you live now. It's your wedding not your cousins' they can have their weddings in your home town. It's hard to plan a wedding long distance. 4 hours isn't that far for your family to come, it's not like plane ride is involved. good luck
2006-06-27 00:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married in the church my husband grew up in. I only had one friend from the town I grew up in (6 hours away) and my aunt who lives kind-of close to there. But we moved when I was 16, so my situation is a little different than most.
2006-06-26 23:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get married anywhere you like, I don't want to get married where I grew up, none of my friends would make it there. I also can't afford to get married in London, it is really expensive here to get a beautiful venue so we are thinking of a totally different area of the country, close to London so that our guests can still get there but far enough away so that we are not paying London prices for the event that we would like.
2006-06-27 10:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition is no longer the normality when it comes to weddings. You can have your wedding anywhere you want the sky is the limit now days. Do whatever feels right to you. I had mine where I live now and it was great!
2006-06-26 23:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, weddings are held where the bride grew up, but it's not necessarily the golden rule. Have the wedding where you would be happiest, after all, it's YOUR wedding, NOT theirs.
2006-06-26 23:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋