has anybody gone with their husbands to the army? how is it?

Question

im planning to get married with my fiance and get shipped off where ever he goes, does anybody know how does it feel over there?

Answer 1

I'm not the spouse, I was in the Army, and we don't have children. My wife has gone every where that I was stationed, except when I was deployed. We have been stationed in Germany and the US. The worse things for her was moving and not being able to hold a career. She has gone to college in both Germany and the US, we have traveled all over the world, and she has held a variety of jobs. Now that I retired from the Army, she is starting on her career.

All I can say is that the military is what YOU make of it. You can make it hard on yourself by staying in your quarters, not going to see the sights, not making friends, staying on post, only going to events on the installation.

OR

You can make the best of it by seeing the sights, making new friends, going off post and enjoying the culture. Remember, you will be seeing and doing things that your friends and family only dream about.

Congrats to you both. Good luck

Answer 2

Ok I am not an Army wife but I am a military wife (AF) and it will be whatever you make of it, every base has its own pros and cons just like every city that you will ever live in. The one nice thing if you live on base is that you will meet women that are in the same situation that you are and most times you will have common interests so there is almost always someone to hang out with and hey everyone is constantly moving and making new friends so you never have to feel like you are entering a circle of people that have been friends forever. No not all military wives are fat either we get that stereotype allot and it is not nice nor do we have 6 children running around I have 1 I happen to stay home with her but that was a personal choice for our family. Your base will be what you make of it, if you want to go to school then do it, if you want to work then do that but whatever you do make your new husband your priority, learn the military way of life and how to make it work for you that way if he is deployed and one day he will be you won't be lost without him. Good luck you will be fine, and hey if you need a friend look me up on IM same screen name I will do all I can to help.

Answer 3

Plan to be bored. Seriously, as soon as you get where ever you are going. He is going to have to work. All the while you sit and wait until he gets home. That's why most dependents (which is what you will be) either are always pregnant, have jobs or are full-time college students. Oh, and plan to get fat, almost all dependents are fat.

I'm in all seriousness, I grew up within a military community and I joined the military. I know what I'm talking about.

Answer 4

It can be as good as you make it. Your husband may work a 9-5 for a certain amount of time (maybe even entire tours) and be deployed for a few weeks-few months for training, war, etc--depending on his MOS.
If you live on base you always have neighbors that have something in common (at the very least the military), no taxes at the PX or commissary, no utility payments, no rent, (with most bases) a close gym, close pool, close childcare, parks, sometimes theaters or bowling alleys on base even. And there are always things/activities going on.
Your husband will be working alot but you don't have to bored if you don't want to be. Bases are great--pretty safe--places to workout, raise kids, enjoy the others there (military and their spouses) who have done amazing things and share stories/hang out. I know spouses of soldiers/sailors that enjoy their lives greatly--and those who don't because they make it seem that they have nothing to do. It'll be hard but nothing you can't handel.
Good luck
Check out: http://benefits.military.com/misc/installations/Browse_USMap.jsp
to see each military base in each continent.

Answer 5

it is very boring...my husband has been in the army for 6 years.i spend the biggest part of the time being at home with our children while he is at work all the time or deployed.right now he is deployed..not all military wives are fat..you can attend FRG meeting which can sometimes be helpful..we have alot of get togethers and things like that..sometimes its not that bad.just depends on where you are stationed at..but good luck and i hope you enjoy wherever you go..