The future in-laws just paid 2200.00 for a new A/C unit.... do i have to match the money? spend more? less?
2006-06-26 15:59:21 · 16 answers · asked by Betty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Money is not always the best gift. I think a daughter needs the love and support of her parents. The wedding is usually the girls parents gift to her because it is so expensive. Help the happy couple pay for their honeymoon, it is the best part of a wedding anyway. Tell them you will always be there for them in all situations.Example childbirth, moving into their house etc. they will love you for that.
2006-06-26 16:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Twinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i got married the best gift that i got was from my mom. She gave me a necklace that her mother wore at her wedding and what she wore also. I wore that my wedding day and i plan on passing that down to my daughter on her wedding day. I love the gifts that come from the heart and don't cost 2200.00. But we are all different and I am sure that no matter what you give her she will love and cherish it forever. Congratulations on you daughters upcoming wedding.
2006-06-26 20:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by roro2519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my daughter her wedding in our backyard. It was a garden style and only I know what I paid total. Not even my husband. She thought it was beautiful and only I know hwere I could've cut the corners and where I could've splurged a little. WHa I'm getting at is - it doesn't matter. Because my daughter stll thanks me for her special day. She's your daughter, I don't think she's going to care what you pay, she cares that you care. Also, I assume she has some idea of your financial situation. She'll understand if you do not have the means to match and I doubt it would matter to her. BTW - my Son-in-Laws' parents bought them a King Size bed, which was also a very generous gift. The kids appreciated everything from both sides. Good luck to you and your daughter.
2006-06-26 18:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by socalmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter isn't materialistic, she will appreciate whatever you can give her. Don't think that because her future in laws spend over 2 grand that she'll love them more. This isn't about the competition or winning her over.
If you want, spend your hard earned money on something useful. Like if she needs help with paying her bills, you can help pay her bills for a month.
2006-06-26 19:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, my parents bought us a new dining room table ($600 + tax), paid for all the food and booze at the wedding, held the reception at their home and sent us to a hotel for the night (we didnt take a honeymoon) Give them something they need or want. You dont have to match that price if you cant. I'm sure your daughter knows and understands that.
2006-06-27 07:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love your daughter, give her a gift from the heart, don't feel bad if you can't keep up with the inlaws, money does not matter at the end of the day. You know your daughter best, so give her something you know she will cherish.
2006-06-26 17:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you can afford to match it. What does your daughter need? I would ask her first.
When I got married my mother gave me the down payment for our house, and his parents paid for a dining room set.
Don't match it unless you can afford it. I don't recommend giving cash unless there is nothing else they could need.
2006-06-26 16:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes your daughter give her some thing that she will be able to look back on maybe something that was hers when she was a child but all fixed up to be a sort of decoration for her home or picture some thing that wont come from a store but from the heart
2006-06-26 16:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by TAMMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, are you close with your daughter?
it all depends on your relationship...
gifts from the heart are always the best, especially on such a big day, as well as being priceless.
don't try and out do anyone - you may get stuck in a vicious cycle, and thats no fun for anyone.
2006-06-26 16:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by kalinrae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go and spend over two grand on a gift..just buy her something practical that she could use or might want.
2006-06-26 16:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by truelovexo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋