My sister is 14 years old and she has a bad problem?

Question

My sister is messed up. And I mean that to say I care about her. I need serious answers please. She has sex with random guys and doesn't use protection most of the time. My mom walked out on us so she can't do anything and my dad has stopped caring. It's just me and her now. How can I help her stop this dangerous stunt? I'm scared that she has a STD or could get pregnant. Please help!!!

I am 17 years old.

Answer 1

Maybe you should talk to her about the dangers there are to sleeping around with people and keep talking to her about it. If she insists with doing it make sure she has condoms with her so that at least there's less a chance at catching something. Also keep those pills that stop you from getting pregnant so that doesn't happen either. I don't know if this will make her think before she gets herself pregnant, but this is a story that use to be on the internet that my mom had:
THE UNBORN CHILD'S DIARY
October 5
Today my life began. My parents do not know it yet, I am as small as a seed of apple, but it is I already. And I am to be a girl. I shall have blond hair and blue eyes. Just about everything is settled though, even the fact that I shall love flowers.

October 19
Some say that I am not a real person yet, that only my mother exists. But I am a real person, just as a small crumb of bread. My mother is. And I am.

October 23
My mouth is just beginning to open now. Just think, in a year or so I shall be laughing and later talking. I know that my first word will be: MAMA!

October 25
My heart is beginning to beat today all by itself. From now on it shall gently beat for the rest of my life without ever stopping to rest! And after many years it will tire. It will stop then I shall die.

November 2
I am growing a bit every day. My arms and legs are beginning to take shape. But I have to wait a long time yet before those little legs will raise me to my mother’s arms, before these little arms will be able to gather flowers and embrace my father.

November 12
Tiny fingers are beginning to form on my hands. Funny how small they are! I'll be able to stroke my mother’s hair with them.

November 20
It wasn't until today that the doctor told mom about me living here under her heart. Oh, how happy she must be! Are you happy, Mom?

November 25
My mom and dad are probably thinking about a name for me. But they don't even know that I am a little girl. I want to be called Kathy. I am getting so big already.

December 10
My hair is growing. It is smooth and bright and shiny. I wonder what kind of hair mom has.

December 13
I am just about able to see. It is dark around me. When Mom brings me into the world it will be full of sunshine and flowers. But what I want more then anything is to see my mom. How do you look, Mom?

December 24
I wonder if mom hears the whispering of my heart? Some children come into the world a little sick. But my heart is strong and healthy. It beats so evenly: tup-tup, tup-tup. You'll have a healthy little daughter Mom!!!

December 28
Today my mother killed me.

Answer 2

First, I have to say God Bless u, and I admire u for being so strong willed and mature.
But unless ur sister wants help then she probly wont listen to u. She must be willing to help herslef, and claim she has a problem. I would say the reason y she sleeping w/random guys is to fill this void, empty space, where ur alls moms walk out. She looking to feel that someone loves her, and that could also be y too. To find out go to ur local health department and ask them if they could do a pee or hair test to c.
What u need to do, is trick her, tell her u got a suprize for her, blindfold her, and take her to a place where there are single teenage moms. Have one to talk to her, they'll tell her how hard it is. Or u find someone sick w/a STD(or just get a friend to act like he/she has), and let her over hear u talking w/this person, about how it happen, how badly they feel, and ect.
If u ever need anyone please email me, I'll listen to u and try to help u all I can. I'll be praying for u and ur family. God Bless Y'all

P.S.
I'm not an ol'hag either, I'm 21!!! So everything I said was out of my life expericens

Answer 3

You need to talk to your sister about her behavior and let her know that you are only saying something because you love her. Tell her about how her activity is leading her down a dangerous path that could get her pregnant or a disease.
She is probably acting out because she has emotional distress from your parents not being around. She may or may not listen to you - so another option is to talk to an adult you trust. She needs some adult guidance - so maybe you can talk to a grandparent, aunt, uncle, close family friend, etc.
In the meantime if she doesn't listen to you and stop sleeping around you should at least get her to go to planned parenthood and get tested for std's and get educated. She can also get free birth control as well.

Answer 4

Sounds like your sister really needs some help. You need to be there for her and try your best to show her how much you care for her and that she is not only hurting herself but you as well. You need to get a book called True Love Waits it explains the dangers of premarital sex and the dangers of STDs. Also try talking to an adult in your family or a counselor or a minister about your situation and see if they can offer you some assistance with your sisters problems.

I hope that you can get through to her and let her know that you are there for her and that you care for her.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this alone, that's not fair to you. Try to get your sister to go to planned parenting with you, if she won't go then go alone and talk to someone there, I'm sure they've seen this before. If she is going to be reckless and sleep around, at least get her set-up with protection (birth control and condoms both). Get pamphlets about STDs (if possible, the ones with horrible gross pictures about what can happen if you get an STD). And your dad may not care but he'll care a lot more if his 14 year old gets pregnant - talk to him again. Are there any aunts/cousins around you could talk to? Anyone she might listen to? It's sad that most teens who do this won't stop until something horrible happens, it's the mentality that it never happens to them, they're invincible. Good luck and get support for yourself, you're all your sister has right now and she'll need you, but you need to get a strong support system for yourself too. Good luck.

Answer 6

First and formost you need to get her to a doctor. After that depending on the area you are in, Try to find a place that helps teen moms and take her there so she can see first hand what it is like and so that she can talk to them. I know what it is to be a teen mom. I had my first child at 16. NOT EASY!!!! I did it and she is now 13 and doing fine. BUT seeing as how you love your sister enough to ask you need to love her enough to take her to some places so she can get some help. As far as you mother goes,,,,,, She has no respect for herself and it seems like your sister is going down the same path. You need a major intervention to happen. Teens have sex for several reasons. Peer presure lack of love from home the need to feel wanted and accepted just wandering what its all about, and so on. You need to find out her reasoning and act on that. There is a bigger problem here ,, more than the sex. You sister needs some serious help and personally I think it is going to be more than you can handle you need to find some professional help for her. May God bless you. I will pray for you both

Answer 7

Tell your sister that you love her and are there for her. Tell her that you care enough to help. Then wish her luck and step aside. If this is what she wants to do, you can't possibly stop her. You can only be there for her when it falls apart or if she wants help.

But then, you know your sister better than any of us. Would stomping her a new one do any good? You can support her or you can abandon her. You can stage an intervention or you could just slap her silly.

In any event your sister may get pregnant or an STD. If she's lucky, it'll just be one of those two. You see, she could also get kidnapped, raped, beaten or murdered.

Answer 8

Well, talk to her first. Get some info on all the std's, pamphlets and whatnot. Then SHOW her what these things could possibly do to her body. It's unforunate to grow up without a mother and a father who couldn't give a crap.....trust me I know what u are going through. My sister and brother and myself were in foster homes from the time we were 4 till 17.Be patient with her and hope you can put some sence into her head. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Love her unconditionally. I think you should also contact your mom and tell her how much you and your sister love her and need her. You may not even realize how much (I'm not sure how old you are). You obviously have more sense than sis. I really do think however, that your mother is the one needing the help. You don't ever just take off and leave two daughters. If she realized that you and sis need her, then possibly SHE will get help and come back to you where she needs to be. I feel bad that you are having to deal with the stress that your mother created. Best of luck to you; you're in my prayers tonight.

Answer 10

Contact some one that your sister looks up to, either a Preist, Minister, Teacher or some one that she will listen to, so that you can tell them what type of destructive behaviour she is displaying.

She is in a "self destructive mode" at this time, because of the break up and is doing this to "get back" at your parents, but, its impacting her life more than she cares to even realize.

Its only short of her being suicidal, and she is playing Russian Roulette by doing this to herself.

I pray that you get help soon, or your sister may start to use drugs and really go down hill from there, in a spiral downhill that you will not believe is possible, at so fast a rate...

I wish you well..

Jesse