Sometimes I think that she is, she belittles me when we are around her. And this makes me think that I am not good enough as a mother, but she herself was not a very loving mother. I am doing my best and would like to include her in my son's life but when she behaves this way I think perhaps I would tell her to stay away until she learns to play nice.
2006-06-26 15:32:44 · 10 answers · asked by nomorelies 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you know what.you are not a child anymore you need to talk to you mother like an adult. i have a very bossy mother (she was a postmaster)and sometimes i just hae to tell her to cut it out,she does not even realise that she is doing it.stand up for yourself,you dont have to be rude, but if you dont she will treat you this way the rest of your life
2006-06-26 15:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by mojomuppet 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mother/Daughter relationships are very different from one group to another. Your mother may have never learned how to be a caring and loving woman. If you have the patients, you could teach her how to be loving, by example. If I were you, I would decide just how patient you are willing to be and leave it at that. If she pushes your buttons too often, shorten the length of your visits and the number of visits per week/month. You could gently explain to her your feelings, and what she is doing that is unacceptable to you and give her the opportunity to change. Remember you are the mom of your son, your son know this, and if she doesn't abide by your wishes, you do not have to bring him around.
2006-06-26 15:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Leader Lady Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother wasn't a loving mother either so she has limited access to myself and my son - which works for us
and my son (aged 7) knows why too
the chances are that if your mother wasn't a loving mother then she probably wont be a loving grandparent either. So limit the access that you and your son down to a minimum and tell her when she is out of order and to cut it out if she wants to continue access to your son.
I also think that the fact that you are willing to invite her to play nice or stay away shows that you are a more caring parent than she ever was to you - so well done and pat yourself on the back on that achievement
2006-06-26 15:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really really really odd.
i think she might not be jealous. maybe she just wants to make sure she's part of your son's life. however it's odd that she pretends that you and her switch places on your son's family tree. then she might be jealous, but i think it's still because she wants to be part of his life.
2006-06-26 15:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take my son/daughter away from my parrents if they did to me what they are doing to you . Me I would just be more bitter about it .
2006-06-26 15:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by ajax_spaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes.
that is weird and i'd ask her to stop. or like you said, tell her you're going to stay away until she figures out she's being horrible.
2006-06-26 15:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you.... Tell her to keep away until she learns whose boss.
2006-06-26 15:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Disillusioned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes 0 sense.
(and you know it)
2006-06-26 15:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by B Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt cut her out of your life, but maybe tell her how you feel.
maybe its dr. phil time for you.
2006-06-26 15:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by um yea hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?
2006-06-26 15:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by E P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋