My 8 month old is spoiled she wont let me put her down during the day, what can I do to unspoil her?

Answer 1

She's 8 months old, you can't spoil someone who doesn't know any better. What you are experiencing, and her doctor should have told you about, is separation anxiety. It is normal behavior in babies and happens in phases. Some of the most extreme happen around 6 months, 12 months, 18 months and 2-3 years old... there is no limit as too how long they last... my son is now 21 months old and he went through each one with a passion!!! It was so frustrating!!! One thing that helped around your daughter's age was a carrier... the reason she wants to be carried is simple: she gets to see more things!!! It's common with children as they are very curious and like to explore their surroundings... Try to get her curiosity stimulated by puttin gsafe but out of the ordinary items in front of her for exploration... like small plastic cups, fabric books, musical toys, etc... If she starts to get cranky and wants you, pick her up and show her around the house while pronouncing and pointing to things... feed her, then put her down for a nap with familiar and safe toys. She may cry but one you get a routine going, she'll get used to it and learn to settle herself and entertain herself while you do some imortant things around the house... It's hard, I know, but it worked for my son... the only reason he keeps getitng off his routine is that with my husband in the Army, we travel alot and he has to break and relearn his routines, which is overwhelming for a child... Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Okay. Let's take a look at what is going on here.You are presumably over 21. The baby is 8 months. Hmmm. Who do you suppose should be in charge?
By eight months, a child is not permanently spoiled for life. Starting today, simply put her down, and leave her down for periods of time. Make sure she has toys nearby, and that she can see you as you work around the house. Move her from room to room with you (yes, you can pick her up to carry her) but put her back down, again, with objects that will provide stimulation. She won't like it at first, but she will adapt. If you don't correct this now, you are in for a thoroughly miserable time when she gets a little older. The terrible twos are bad enough without bringing a load of bad habits into the mix!
You go girl. Get a backbone, and tell yourself you are in charge.

Answer 3

You need to let her cry a little , i know it seems mean but it will work. She just needs to understand that she can get down and play and mom doesn't need to carry her everywhere. There is a limit to how long she cries, you don't want her making herself sick. Just put her down with some toys , or in her swing if you have one, or in a walker, or whatever it is you have. She will eventually learn that it is ok and she doesn't have to be carried. Ok now to the second thing you can look at too. My daughter was the same way and come to find out that she had a bad case of seperation anxiety. She would cry when I walked out of the room, or if I had to leave her with a sitter, but she would finally get over the fact that mom is gone.
Good luck hope this helps

Answer 4

A spoiled child is not a child that gets too much attention it is one who has not got enough.

You need to pick her up until she is calm and at different parts of the day teach her that no matter what you are there to love her and care for her.

Just imagine yourself, when someone is paying you attention and you know that no matter what they will always be there (i.e. a husband, parent or boyfriend) you are not likely to lose control when they leave. However if you are not secure in your relationship every time they walk out of the door you lose it.

I have a 5 month old that I pick up and hold and love and when i set him down he is truly content for hours because I did not let anyone tell me not to hold him too much. He sleeps in his crib all through the night and he rarely cries because he knows that I am aware of his needs.

Answer 5

Put her down, if she cries let her. Don't leave the room though when you first start this. Talk to her, comfort her with your voice. Give her toys to play with and if you are working in the kitchen, even try pots with a wooden spoon (I know, noisy but it can be a distraction for your daughter). Just be reassuring and until she gets use to being put down and not being carried everywhere, don't leave the room. She may get scared.

Just be loving and be strong. Just comfort her with your voice, you can even sit next to her on the floor and play (if you have nothing to do). It may get her use to being on the floor. She just needs to know that mommy is there, but she can't be held all the time. :-)

Answer 6

You can unspoil her by not picking her up when she whines. It may take a lot of effort on your part not to, but you dont want them to get into that habit. If they scream and cry you should still just let them cry and not give in to them. Eventually they will break out of habit. If not try givin them something to play with or something to entertain her.

Answer 7

Put your foot down. Sometimes you just need to let them cry. Try doing it, and walk away. Not far, but enough to say, mommy won't listen this time. It won't work right away, but if you continue to try, your baby will get used to the idea, and find ways of entertaining itself. I had that problem with my daughter, and after a few weeks of trying, I was able to put her down and clean my house before she would wine for attention.

Answer 8

You should watch tv. There are 2 nanny shows on tv showing how to deal with kids that you can't put down. One show is called Nanny911 and the other i cant remember the name. One is on ABC the other is on FOX, i think. Those nanny's give the best advice on subjects like the one you asked about.

Answer 9

Ignore her. Honestly, there's NOTHING ELSE you can do. After a while, she'll realize you're just not coming back. She'll get tired of screaming and take a nap.

If you do anything other than this-- or if you "break" and scoop her back up after a long time-- all she'll learn is "Mommy will eventually come pick me back up if I scream and complain long and loud enough."

It's the only way to "unspoil" a child. You must be strong. Anything else is perpetual failure.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Put her down and let her cry. It's not going to kill her to cry then try to find something for her to do to keep her busy for a while. Try the web site below maybe you can get some help there. Good Luck!!!