35, I haven't had a hug or been told "I love you" from anyone since her passing(other than my kids) is it normal to just WANT a hug because I feel unloved?
2006-06-26 15:31:31 · 27 answers · asked by screwedover1motime 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, very normal. im 28 and my dad passed three years ago. there is no man in my life but when i go through emotional trips i want someone to tell me it's ok. But tomorrow will b a new day and today will be gone and the pain will soon subside, hold on to the love that is in your heart and know that there is someone else who loves you and need you to be strong not just for them but for yourself as well
2006-06-26 15:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by msmarle99 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Hugs are the universal medicine. It is perfectly natural for you to want a hug just because you feel unloved. There is nothing wrong with that. Some alleviation to your present distress; start hugging your close friends just to hug them. Or, hug other people who need hugs as well. And, if all else fails, hug yourself. Remember, there is no greater friend and consolation than that of the one deep down inside your own heart. If it helps, I send you a hug from me and my fiancee through this very message.
2006-06-26 22:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have axperienced a similar situatuin, but not such a deep end. I lived overseas for about 3 1/2 years, by myself. This was in a country where I didn't know anyone, and really didn't have the time to get to know anyone. I am a very solitude person, I don't mind being alone, most of the time I prefer it. But there were times when human contact, on a deeper level thanco-workers, was greatly desired. Just the touch of someone who loved me and wanted to spend time with me because they loved me. So I know what you are going through and it is really hard. But I think there are people out there who would understand, you just have to open uo and let them know that you are in need.
2006-06-26 22:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely normal to feel that way. I lost my mother when i was 16 and i was extremely close to her. The best way to over come the pain is to talk about it, just honestly let it out. If your sad say it, the best way to over come how you feel is to recognize your true feelings and just don't hide from it because if you do that will lead to a lot of pain in the future.
So i think the best medicine to cure the pain is just letting it all out
your never going to forget the good times, or the bad times. There memories and that is what you need to keep near you the most (but probably not so much the bad ones - you can leave those out)
2006-06-26 22:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Yonna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is normal to want a hug from someone other than your children. there is nothing like a hug from a parent to give you that sense of security when everything is going wrong. Or a hug of praise when you do something good. If you have an aunt or uncle that can step into that place or a grandparent. talk with them and see if they are willing to step up.
2006-06-26 22:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY it's normal. I am so sorry for all of your loss and I am sending you a BIG HUG!! Don't ever be ashamed or afraid to seek out companionship and love. We all need it. And look at all of the people who have already responded to this message. There is a lot of compassion and love in this world...sometimes all you have to do is put yourself out there and ask for it! You have a lot of courage and you should be very proud of yourself for talking about and confronting these feelings. I wish you all the best!
2006-06-26 22:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by nic2127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sending a big hug your way!!!! ((((((HUG))))))
I can relate to what you're feeling. My mom just passed away in March....I want a hug from her more than anything =( I feel like nothing is right. It's like the only person in the whole world who can make it any better is my Mom....
I guess we just need to love ourselves now, and be happy so our Mom's aren't upset with us (cause you know they are watching, and they want us to be happy!)
Sending lots of warm wishes your way. Hope you find comfort.
2006-06-26 22:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by gem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'm sure your kids love you. But you need a bf. YOu need to socialize and date! I'd love to be the one to give you that hug, and tell you what you haven't been told by anyone for a long time.
2006-06-26 22:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completly normal. Everyone wants some physical contact from someone besides their children and to feel love on the same emotional level as themselves. Hugs are very comforting, it's one of the first ways we experience love as children and we carry that throughout our adult lives.
2006-06-26 22:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There was a study done on hugs several years ago.
The average person needs
4 hugs to stay alive
8 hugs to survive and
12 hugs to thrive.
Go hug somebody. Hug yourself if you have to.
Sending you a hug from me. :-)
And although I don't know you, I am compelled by my Lord & Savior to love you.
Therefore, I love you with the love of the LORD, yes I love you with the love of the LORD. And I see in you the glory of my King, yes I love you with the love of the LORD.
Blessings,
Pam
2006-06-26 22:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋