my sister constantly tries to steal my thunder?

Question

what should i do about my sister? she is always trying to steal my thunder when i achieve something. for example, when i finished uni, she decided she'd go to uni and do the exact same course. i planned an overseas trip earlier in the year, and now she's gone ahead and has planned the same sort of trip at the same time. she heard i was getting engaged, so asked her b/f to marry her so she could be engaged at the same time. it's starting to freak me out, what the hell should i do??

Answer 1

best thing to do to keep peace is to let it go. I have a sister that does the same thing. I sew and have sewn all my life. I taught her to sew. Now she sews all the time and seems to try to out do me on the sewing. Also I took cosmetology to learn to cut hair and my family always wants me to cut their hair. She started cutting her husbands hair and now she is trying to cut our parents hair and she has no experience but it is like she wants praise for doing it without schooling. It is many more things I have noticed that she does to try to out do me......makes me mad but best to let it go and try to ignore it the best you can. It really helps being out on my own....I dont have to see her do it anymore....

Answer 2

Whoa, that kind of sucks. Try to think of it this way: she admires you. I think that you should just live your life and disregard it if she copies you. Take a deep breath and try to be a little more adult about this. Maybe in a couple of years she'll look back and realize that she's never really followed her own path. She will surely regret this and probably feel sorry. For now, just pretend like you don't notice and be happy for her. Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe you should try to have a heart to heart with her and see what's going on. For all we know, she could just see you as a good example and is trying to do what's best for herself. Instead of thinking about "thunder" and all that silliness, try putting yourself in her shoes. Remember, she is just your sister. She's not some kind of mortal enemy or something. Being the center of attention isn't everything, and people who think it is lead sad, pathetic lives. You should probably feel sorry for her. Hope this helps!!

Answer 3

My husband and I can both sympathize with you. His brother and my brother always try to upstage us. Especially his,When we got married he did, We bought a house so he did, We got satellite he did , I bought a new computer he did, We put our son in baseball, he put his daughters in t-ball, We go on a great vacation he did, We have Karaoke partys and invite the family so he has to have some kind of gathering the next weekend. At first I thought he looked up to my husband but now i think he is crazy, He started making up lies when he couldn't out do us. One day I said I really wish I could get that SUV I want. So they bought one. They brought it around to flash it and show off and I said, I would never drive that model or that color. I would have never puchased that way either you are going to regret it. (Their faces were utter shock)Now they are in debt over thier head, he has to travel to get the income they need. We tried to tell him to be responsible that it takes an good income to have what we have. But there was no listening and now his life is miserable and none of us speak anymore. He still tries to do things and tells the family to tell us like go on overseas vacations or getting another house (that they couldn't get) I guess my advice is Try to talk to her about it before you are like us. We may never speak again. Or teach her a lesson, make her think you are going to do something grand and when she does it just to upstage you remember the SUV part of the story up there. They laid off for alittle while after that.

Answer 4

Tell her to get her own damn life that's ridicules and I know the feeling I have two younger sisters they do the same thing and my parent always give them more recognition. You should also sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel and just don't tell her anything that's going on in your life block her out she'll eventually stop!!! I know that's sometimes hard but sometimes a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do to get her life back!!!!!!!!! best of luck to you sis

Answer 5

My sister throws a hissy fit like a little five year old child everytime something good happens to me.

She's 34 years old. I'm 32. It's very embarassing. I don't tell her anything anymore, but sometimes my mom will let something slip out, and then ya better cover your ears.

Answer 6

Woa, that's a little much. I mean I've heard of people imitating others because they think they're so great and want to be just like them, but your sis sounds a little overboard. Have you ever tried talking to her about it? She might be insecure and doesn't like to do anything unless someone else does it first therefore proving it "cool" or safe or fun. Or she may just be that perpetual little sis, always wanting to be like her big sis. I'd talk to her though, she may not realize it's bothering you so much.

Answer 7

I used to do the same things with my older brother. I only did it because I admire him and I wanted to be like him. He was upset with me for many years. But now we are older and we think the whole "I do what you do" was really funny....

Answer 8

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery? o_o Orrrr not.

Answer 9

You shouldn't do anything. Immitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Why does it bother you?

Answer 10

Don't get freaked out, please. Your sister probably loves and admires you. She sees attributes that she wished she had. Imitation is the truest complement