Ok, I'm an 18 year old female and next summer I'll be moving to Rome ( by myself) for a year to study and to work. I've researched the crime rates and found that they are very low and the only thing to really worry about is pick pockets. I told my mother all of this but she is still terrified I'll be stolen or something. I've tried to assure her that I'm going to use my common sense and not go out at night by myself, not get into cars with strange men, stay away from deserted ally ways, and that I'm going to stay in a crowd so it'll be less likely I'll get abducted but she's still paranoid. Any advice on what to say to her so she won't be pulling out her hair the whole time I'm gone?
p.s. I asked this question under another category also, but then I saw this category and thought it related more to the topic. Thanks!
2006-06-26 14:44:45 · 12 answers · asked by Led*Zep*Babe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well... a paranoid mother will always be a paranoid mother.. nothing you can do about it. Ever thought about taking a few self defense lessons. Your mother might feel more comfortable if she knew you knew how to defend yourself. Or tell her you always cary pepper spray, shocker, or something to defend yourself with (a weapon).
2006-06-26 14:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by monomat99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess I'm paranoid, too, because I'd worry too if you were my daughter . . . . It doesn't matter that you are going to Rome; it could be going any where away from home. Some of us Moms are just that way. There's really nothing you can tell her to ease her mind at this point. Just tell her how much this means to you, how careful you will be and that you will e-mail her at a minimum of once a day. Let the Embassy, or whoever, know you are coming and what your situation is. They'll look out for you, too, I bet. My son went to Southern Italy a couple of years ago and loved it. The people were so friendly. Your Mom will adjust.
2006-06-26 21:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will be calling and emailing her daily. Tell her you will only be going out with friends and in a group. If you're a trustworthy person she'll believe you. If not, she won't. Bottom line though is a mother will always worry about a daughter whose away from home in a foreign country. That's what moms do!! Good luck and watch those Italian men, they're real casanovas so they are >grin<
2006-06-26 21:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom myself I can understand why she is paranoid but be patient with your mom. She loves you and she is just worried about letting her little girl go. I think she will get used to it once you are gone. If you keep in touch quite a bit then it will make her feel better. You will be a mom someday and you will understand why she is paranoid. You sound very smart and I wish I could assure your mom that you would be alright.
2006-06-26 21:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom, and now I understand how i will always worry about my kids.
Moms knows you will be safe and will use your common sense--I'm sure your a great kid (adult) but...there are a lot of people out there that just worries her.
You wont beable to tell her anything -- cause she will still worry and I think she does have that right. Your moving to rome, its not like its across the street.
Just try to understand her veiwes.
JMO
2006-06-26 21:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done all you can it sounds like, and she will still be worried and afraid for you, try to call her everyday and maybe she will feel more reassured!! Unless you can wait to go until you are older or have a friend who can go with you to also study and work so you can keep an eye on each other.
2006-06-26 21:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by ustech84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you want to be safe and live just as much as she wants that for you! Tell her that you would never do anything to jeopardize that and that you will exercise an extra degree of caution while there.You can also tell her that you have created an aura of protection around yourself and that with this intact no harm can befall you! Of course she may then think your nuts and not allow you to go!Good luck, have fun, learn allot and stay safe!
2006-06-26 21:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Silva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well I would call and write to her as much as possible! If she's still antsy, give her her own little "talk" and prove her wrong! Then maybe she'll understand! but remember she'll alaways be that way because she loves u!
2006-06-26 21:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by amf8995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough for Mom's to let their children "go", as I'm sure you know. You might mention to her that she's raised a level-headed and practical young woman, and that it's that background that will see you through your time in Rome. Good luck, and "Ciao". :-)
2006-06-26 21:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jolly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between now & then, give Mom no reason to worry...
Be responsible, make wise choices ...
And take her feelings into consideration
I'd worry too if my 18yr old didn't understand
my concerns < they're legit !
2006-06-26 21:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋