its a cruel thing to do to your kids and they think its normal!!!!!!
2006-06-26 14:40:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They think that it is there kids and they do have the right. I hate it. It isn't fair for any one old or young to have to go through something like that. Again why do men beat their wives. maybe it is a power thing. I guess you can never really know until you get into their minds.
2006-06-26 14:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a deep question.
People are not born with all good intentions, we are not born good. It is what we are taught, through what we see, our examples, what we believe, and how we are "punished" for being disobedient, naughty, ect. when we are still children. (The way parents react to their children when they do something that they shouldn't do.)
You are totally right. It is wrong and cruel to abuse a child. And if they are brought up that way, chances are they will think that it is normal, and sometimes, many times I think, they themselves will follow in their parents footsteps when they grow and have their own children. That is one reason why it is so important that you watch yourself to be an example of what you would like your children to grow up to be.
Why do parents sometimes abuse their children? They get upset at them, the child is disobedient or appears to be deaf to their words, they get so stressed and don't know how to handle it, they might not know who they can turn to for help, those kinds of things, and even there are those whoose minds have been violated with thoughts that they don't know how to get victory over, so they give in because they think they can't do anything about it.
2006-06-26 15:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say it has to deal with how they are raise, and its true. To a point. If they are not stimulated, parts of their brain fail to develop. But, however, I have met people abused terrible as childern, and they did not grow to be like that to their childern because they understand what that behaviour causes the child to feel, and would not want to bestow such a feeling unpon anyone else. So people who use this, only use it as an excuss to deal with their mental issues they have a hard time sorting through. No person doesn't "not know how to love."
2006-06-26 14:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by gaea08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that a lot of times parents abuse their kids because they don't understand how to be a good parent.
and often they treat their kids as they themselves were treated and so the cycle goes on
the thing is how to break that cycle which is why i think that questions like yours are good ones to ask
i think that to re educate many young people on how to set boundaries for children and how to manage their behaviour would eliminate a lot of abuses that go on that stem from a lack of knowing what to do.
there are those however that are into being as controlling as possible - and whether it is their spouse or their own kids or whatever they will be abusive wherever they can
and that is evil itself
2006-06-26 14:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask my self the same question all the time. My mom and her friend had to call CPS on this one woman. She had two children who has cerebral palsy and the oldest is OK, but the mother made them live in complete filth and threw chairs at them. Most people abuse children because they were abused, others are just sick in the head and need their children taken out and put into loving homes.
2006-06-26 14:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say stress plays a large part in this. as well as the age of the parent.
i was abused as a child. one time i was beat with a elec. cord and thrown in the hall closet for 6 + hours. when mom let me out she ask dad what he used on me then sent me off to bed.
the thing i did that was so bad; tried to play with dad.
took years of watching other grown ups to decide how to deal with my own kids.
2006-06-27 16:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by kartg1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people should never be a parent. They may be nice and good people but not well equipped to be parents.
2006-06-26 14:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cruel, but some parents were taught by their parents to do that.
2006-06-26 14:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when some parents get angry they don't know how to control their anger and sometimes that can lead to unnecessary things like abuse.
2006-06-26 14:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by wassup_doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz they get mad at other people.. and they take it out on there kids cuz they know that they can and they dont know what they did till after they did it while they are doin it they dont really realize what they are doin
2006-06-26 14:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sammi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋