Is it just cause she's mad at me?

Question

My girlfriend is mad at me becuase she feels like I have negative thoughts about her. I really don't, and I tell her I don't but she won't believe me. She sometimes seems to think she makes me unhappy. I reassure her that she does but she wont believe me. And now, when I tell her I love her, instead of saying it back, she said "mmhhhmm". Is she not saying it back just cause shes mad? Also, any suggestions on how i can prove she really does make me happy? Cause my examples i provide to her don't seem to be enough. :(((

Answer 1

I would say you need to talk to your girlfriend and let her know how you feel and tell her that the way she acts when you say stuff to her bothers you. If not I would suggest that maybe you shouldn't be with her if it bothers you that much.

Answer 2

If she is not saying "I love you" back and it truly is because she is mad at you then that would be kinda childish. I suspect there is way more to it than you think. We can say all the right things and we can assure our partners with words how much we love them and how much they mean to us but many times things isn't enough. Are you showing her all the right things through actions as well. When we say all the right things but don't back them up with action then it is like all the words are just empty words.
So make sure you are not only saying all the right things to her but you back those words up with actions as well. Is there a chance you have done something and she knows about it but you don't know she knows cause this could be one reason why she gives you the "mmhhhmm" when you tell her you love her. Also many men make the mistake of teasing a woman about something.. like her weight, looks etc they are just playing around but some women take this to heart and this also could be why she doesn't believe your words.

Answer 3

She seriously needs to get over her own self-doubt and self-pity. She's ignoring your generosity of sincere words and turning it into "you're just saying that because ....blah". When really, she should be happy that you love her, think she's wonderful and don't think of her negatively, and are content and happy by being with her.
This is TOTALLY not your fault at all. Being a woman who has done this back in my girl days, I can honestly say that its plain ol' paranoia. You have to tell her that it hurts your feelings when she doesn't trust what you tell her is true. You have to tell her that it's not very encouraging to say "i love you" ever again if all you're going to get in return is an eyeroll.
Ask her if it would be better if you just didn't say anything. Most girls will say "no". That's when you say, "Okay, then! I'm telling you something that means something important to me and I want you to take me seriously." Or something along those lines.

She's not mad at you. She's mad at something in herself and she's having major issues resolving it to enjoy your relationship and accept compliments and acts of love.

Good luck.

Answer 4

She can't make you happy...just as you can't make her happy...only YOU can make you anything (happy, sad, etc). You are the one who controls how you feel. However, her attitude is definitely not warm and fuzzy...if you've tried to talk to her and she's not responsive,she doesn't believe what you say, then back off for a bit and leave her alone...tell her you don't know where her current insecurity came from, and you've told her how you feel but she chooses not to believe you...you're going to take some time off so she can decide if she wants to trust and believe in you again or not, because as things currently stand, the relationship isn't going to last...

Answer 5

Why don't you suggest some time apart? Tell her you'll call her when she grows up a bit. Tell her that you've been straight with her about your feelings and she doesn't seem to be listening. Perhaps SHE is having second thoughts about the relationship and is putting her uncertainty on YOU. Tell her you are tired of playing games. It's immature of her to keep badgering you about your feelings towards her. She needs to work on her own issues of trust, and self-esteem. Tell her you love her and have been faithful to her; there is no other way to prove your love. It is now up to her to get her own thinking straight.

Answer 6

Women need constant assurance of affection. Sometimes I ask my husband is mad and it turns out he isn't. He will have an angry or intense look on his face and really he is just think about something that stressed him out during the day at work or about one of his employees who made him mad. All i am doing is looking at his facial expressions or if he is being quiet and then assume he is mad. Of course he's not! Try writing a sweet sexy note to her and put it on the mirror for her to find in the morning. Bring her flowers. Constantly reassure her of your love.

Answer 7

Well, for people like her and me actions speak louder than words. So maybe you'll just have to show her and not just say it. Even though, she should be able to take your word on it though. Ask her why she feels and thinks the way that she thinks and feels. She has to have her reasons. If you don't ask, you won't know. Ask her, " how can I make you happy?", if you even want to know. Your not a mind reader and neither is she. You've got to really put yourself out there or maybe she's with someonelse or thinks that your cheating on her. Just don't give her any reasons to think that your lying.

Answer 8

Sounds like your g/f is insecure with herself and/or your relationship. The only thing you can do is sit her down and look her in the eye and tell her how much she means to you. Keep being supportive and reassuring her that you love her and care for her. If she keeps it up ask her why she thinks that you don't love her/care for her. If you can find out why she thinks the way she does you can get to the bottom of how to support her and love her so she doesn't think like that.

Answer 9

Some girls are just like that, " I know I am " but anyways, If you really want to prove it to her all girls are different,but If I were you I would buy her a ring, not an engagement ring just a "Promise" ring get something nice engraved on the inside, let her know that you promise to love her, care for her ect. you know,... slip it on her pretty little finger, no.. not that one, a promise ring is put on the right hand, same finger, but on the right hand. she will probably get a weird little smile on her face, but then I think she should be happy after this so I hope this helps you.. Good Luck!

Answer 10

The things that show how much you care are the little things...example: if you are out having a boys night...give her a call and tell her you were thinking of her and wanted to say hi. Or you could bring her over her fav candy (butterfinger) out of the blue. tell her how nice she looks or hot or beautiful. Do somthing nice when she wouldnt expect it from you....when you normally wouldnt. She does have low self esteem, you you can help her by makeing her feel good about herself. and not just by complements, encourage her to do somthing that she has always wanted to do or somthing that she enjoys and is good at.