My mother and my biological dad were never married. He got married last month to a lady he has been with for 10 years. I'm 16 now and i have known his now-wife since i was little. My mom says that she isn't my step mom. I think she is.. but i could be wrong. Is she??
2006-06-26 14:31:28 · 26 answers · asked by lil_shorti97 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I teach my children that once their father(biological) is married they will then have a step mom bc she is married to there biological dad. Just like if your mother gets married you will have a step dad. It just depends on what you believe this is Your life and hey dont worry my biological dad was the same way and he and my mom were never married. I chose to call my step dad Dad because thats who clothed me, payed my bills, and gave me a roof over my head and now that he is passed on i still feel no different. So, hun, do and say what makes you comfortable and i think you are on the right track Keep it up . And just in case she still says this write the definition down for her GOOD LUCK KIDDO
2006-06-26 14:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by jessie_317 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is wrong. Your dad's wife is your step mother by definition of marriage. I think your mom is jealous of your dad's wife, has been and will always be because your dad did not marry her. As long as your step mother treats you as if you are her child and doesn't say negative things about your mom, the relationship will be a good one. However, if mom, step mom and dad are all saying negatives things about each other, try your best not to get involved in their adult drama. To the best of your ability, let each of them know you love them all and your are glad you have them in your life. At 16 life is tough enough and for you be caught somewhere in the middle can cause serious emotional problems for you because you might start thinking that they are so busy fighting with each other, they have overlooked the most important person in their lives, meaning you.
It's sad when a child has to be the adult in situations such as yours. Hope this helps.
2006-06-26 14:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup - she is. Your dad married her for one, and since she has been in a mom role for you for at least 10yrs she certainly does qualify as a step mother. Your mom might just be jealous or not want you to view anyone else as a mom but her.
2006-06-26 14:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is still your stepmother regardless of whether your father married your biological mother or not. The 'step' indicates that she is not your biological mother simply. It doesn't automatically indicate this is a second or any other marriage for your father.
2006-06-26 14:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by subterranean_catalyst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your biological parents legally separate/divorce, take up a partner and legally marries, that partner of your mom/dad becomes your step mom/dad.
2006-06-26 14:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Big Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman your Dad marries is your step-mom.
2006-06-26 14:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is not your biological mother, and your dad is married to her. She IS your step-mother.
2006-06-26 14:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has been there for you since you were little, married to your dad or not i belive she would be, maby not in the laws eye's but in your yes. I have a father and a dad, my father i did not meet till i was 14, and my dad who raised me was not my father, but my dad... As i was always told, It takes a couple of minutes to be a father, But it takes a lifetime to be a dad. So if she was there for you, regardless of blood relationship i belive Yea she would be.
2006-06-26 14:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by bradford99336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should we assume you live with your biological mom? Evidently your mom is a bit jealous, and rightfully so. In front of your mom call your step mom by her first name, just to keep your bio mom happy.
2006-06-26 14:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't she be your step mom...she's your dads wife which equals step mom. You mom is just being mean yes she is your step mother.
2006-06-26 14:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋