How to talk to my parents?

Question

I'm was an A/B student, really confident and a star athlete. This past year in high school, junior year, i became enclosed, depressed and my grades started failing. My parents never seemed to notice that i wasn't happpy, that i started hating softball and started hating high school. i started to never leave the house and started to give up on life.I guess what started to really bring me down was how i could cover up my miserable life and my parents just assumed everything was fine. I tried to tell my dad once and he seemed to care for a couple of days and then he just blew it off and hasn't mentioned it since, that was almost 4 months ago. how do i deal with this?

Answer 1

not really what i was expecting when i read the question but ill give it a shot.
1st off... the things that u directly chose in life like giving up a sport or not leaving the house give u an idea of how ur feeling.. what u want basically...
it seems to me that uve realised that the life u were living that was set up for u is not really one that u wanted to live.. and that trying to cover smething up to make others feel better has led to no problems for them but a lot of problems for you.
u mentioned that u have a lot more free time now... i think first u got to make sure u know what it is that YOU want. Take a few days to just relax.. then try things out. embark on the journey that is life... its not gonna just appear if u want it to be a way that really means something to u.. u gotta just go out and experience **** to know what kind of things ur looking for in life. Id be glad to go over any of what i meant with you if u want to pm me or something

Answer 2

Have you told your parents what you have said here? I mean exactly or have you skirted around the issue? I would assume your parents thought you were just going through something and that everything is now OK because you have hidden what is really going on. I think you should make a copy of what you have written here and you should sit your parents down let them read it and tell them you really need help and you need to talk. sometimes parents are in denial and want everything to be OK and it is easy to overlook things unless we are hit over the head sometimes.
This is just my observation as a parent.

Answer 3

I'm sorry your parents are paying attention to the warning signs. As a parent of a teenager myself, I lost sight of what was really important for a while. I figured since my son was older he could take of himself and I could finally do some things I had wanted to. The signs were there and I never saw them. He got into a lot of trouble and I felt really guilty and blamed myself for not being home more or paying more attention.

If you are really sad and unhappy please talk to someone. The school counselor, an adult friend...just please make sure it's someone you can trust and who cares about you. Don't get sucked into listening to people who only care about themselves.

Good luck, I wish you and your parents nothing but the best.

Answer 4

It could be that they don't know how to handle it and think it just might go away. I am sure they care ... but they don't know what to do.

If you have trouble talking to them, and can't get a counselor or adult friend to help you, (or even a peer) .... here is a suggestion ....

How about writing them a note or letter telling them what you have said here, and that you feel you should see a counselor and a doctor? I bet they will sit up and take note, and will see to it that you get the help you need.

This is probably one of those many bumps in life, and once you get the appropriate help, in time things will be okay again.

Bless you!!

Answer 5

You just have to keep talking until they listen! If you really cant get them to do that maybe you can talk to another trusted adult. A school counselor or a friends parent??? I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, life as a teen is hard enough especially when your parents arent behind you!!! I am here if you ever need to talk!

Answer 6

Many schools have a school psychologist. They are different from school counselors. They are actually trained in various types of therapy that may help you. Also, if you want to involve your parents, the sp can help with a meeting b/w you and your parents. Good luck and remember that you aren't really alone.

Answer 7

Go to a counselor and explain how you feel. Don't be too upset about life, if you are healthy. Buy some good books and read and read and read. Especially true to life books. Skip fiction. Be happy you are alive and well. Help somebody. Go to the beach and be careful. Do good and be proud. Move on, life is waiting.

Answer 8

i was there before years ago so i know how you feel, i recommend putting aside your parents or maybe pulling one aside first by going out to an event or lunch and take it from there..dont beat yourself up about how to tell them cuz you need to tell em and not hold it in..let them know how you are feeling and that you need their support because it would mean a lot to you.you should write down the pros in your life and be grateful of what you have and focus on the positive so you turn your life around..hang with people that are positive and upbeat as it will feed of on you or just put your mind to something you love doing and trust me you will start to feel better and when you get that happy feeling just remember how it makes you feel and keep going from there on..good luck

Answer 9

What about your mom?
Hopefully you have someone else you can turn to for help - a best friend, a favorite teacher, a guidance counselor, etc. If your parents assume you're ok, maybe they'll listen more if someone else makes them see what's really going on.

Answer 10

thats bad my parents dont even ground me when i get a f my parents are nice in all but they dont disapline me thats what i wish they would do and wish they would be with me more in life seems we both going through the same **** except i started trying in school agian went from f/d/c student to all a's everyone thought i was stupid never realized i just never tried