For almost 2 years now, my dad expects me to do five loads of laundry a day, fill up the dish washer three times a day, and make all of the beds in the house. My mom is here with me and all my she ever does is watch TV or sleep. My twin brother just plays video games and yells at me. My dad says that it is my job to do the house chores. Personally, I want my hopefully-one day marriage to be where the woman does not have to do everything. We are not religious at all, in fact my dad is an Athiest. Truthfully, I am a bit scared of him if I stand up to him, because he is 6'3 and around 250 lbs. I am just a 14 years old girl with a terrible social life who sometimes thinks about suicide. How can I deal with my present situation?
2006-06-26 14:07:25 · 11 answers · asked by Dazed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would definatly recommend speaking with your guidance counselor. although your dad is atheist if you are at all religious you could seek advice from a pastor or minister. if he were to ever lay a hand on you there are crisis line that you can call for help rather than calling the cops if your too scared to do that.
2006-06-26 14:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by fuchi fuchi fea fea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! The days of slavery are long gone. 5 loads of laundry per day!!! Who dirties that many clothes? Why can't everyone make up there own bed? And why can dishes get done before and after dinner? Sounds like your dad things of you more so as a maid and less like a daughter. If your mother does nothing why can't she assume most of these duties? and you and your brother share any remaining chores. At 14 you should be focused on going to school, studying, making friends & trying to find your way in life, not keepin up a household. Maybe you should speaking to your guidance counselor at school (Guidance counselor are usually still available in the summer at most school), they also have teen crisis line that you can call. If your really that afraid to speak to your father face to face maybe you could write your concerns and feeling down on paper as a letter addressed to him. If you don't speak your mind nothing is going to change!!!
2006-06-26 21:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Meeka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do the laundry. But when it's 4 loads or more, you should have a laundry partner. Your mom should eitehr help you or make the beds. your dad should cook. And all of you should clean house. If I was married, I'd share the chores. If I had children, they'd each have a few chores.
2006-06-26 21:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathy for your situation.Please try not to consider suicide as a viable option to rid your self of the torment.You are 14 now and just becoming a woman,the greatest creature God ever created and you will soon have a loving male serving you and doing all the chores if you so desire.There are men out there who are crossdressers,submissives and live to serve and make their woman's life better.Be patient.huggs
2006-06-26 21:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by racquel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a teen crisis line hon. I had a mom just like that and I lived through it and now that Im 25 we have a decent relationship. Your dad is a control freak. I don't think that standing up to him is in your best interest your 14. Talk to a professional. Good luck.
2006-06-26 21:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by deddboyzkitten2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear you dont have to put up with this, they are mentally abusing you and I feel for you. I am a mother of 5 children and make my kids share equally and still have a social life. Please talk to an outside of the home family member or call a abuse hotline in your area. Maybe an aunt or grandma would let you stay with them for a while, also take the time to make up a chore list of your own and post it on the fridge and make sure you include dad in it also.....its not all up to you and please chat with someone soon....take care.
2006-06-26 21:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by micmes2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little you can do about this for right now except long for the day that you will be legally able to move on your own. When this sunny day appears find comfort in knowing that you will be able to manage your home on your own, you won't be lazy, and you'll know exactly how you don't want to treat people. Godspeed.
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-26 21:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad, i feel sorry for you. It sounds like you are being abused, but to what extent under your states law is hard to say..get some help outside the home, is there another relative you can stay with?
2006-06-26 21:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a secret letter about how you feel and stay in the library after school that day. If they beat you, go to police.
2006-06-26 21:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by ricardocoav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. Do you have a guidance counselor in your school???
2006-06-26 21:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋